(Closed) incredibly envious/jealous of people announcing their pregnancies…

posted 6 years ago in TTC
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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greenmile12:  Hi, it’s going to be hard to shut off wanting a baby. I have been TTC for 3 years and diagnosed with pcos as well. I don’t get upset anymore but at one point I did. My Fiance support and I think that makes it easier with these emotions of everyone else, he is able to help me see the positive. Did your Fiance say why he wanted to wait that amount of time? 

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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greenmile12:  I can totally relate regarding feeling envious.  H and I have been TTC for going on 16 cycles.  We met and married a bit later in life and always knew there would be a possibility of having issues TTC, but I had always hoped that wouldn’t be the case. Well… here we are, 16 cycles later and still no positives.  I have serious baby fever now so it’s been very difficult over the past couple of months seeing/hearing pregnancy anouncements and what not.  It’s even more difficult when people ask when we are going to have kids.  We are private people so I always just say, when the time is right.  No one knows that we have been trying. I had previously gotten to the point that it didn’t bother me, but for whatever reason, it’s getting hard again. 

People put time frames on things but more often than not, those time frames don’t work out.  You never know, a year or 2 down the road he very well may change his mind.  As I see it, life is all about timing… when the time is right, everything will fall into place.  

By the way, I know plenty of women with PCOS who successfully got pregnant.  Hopefully when the time comes you don’t have an issue getting your BFP.  Good luck to you!

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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greenmile12:  Thanks! Yea there’s really no “right” age it’s just a learning experience. Have you guys talked about the options you are willing to look into if there seems to be difficulty conceiving naturally? Like how deep into fertility treatments would you want to go? Is adoption an option?

We didn’t know about the pcos until we didn’t get pregnant so we never had a need to have those conversations, but we tried the Clomid route for a year with no success and with my reaction physically and emotionally we decided that anything more evasive would be forcing and could cause more issues and discussed what we will do, even that daunting conversation of life without children. Currently we are going natural routes with supplements and acupuncture. Maybe that could be a discussion to see if that 5 yr  would be something to look into and to see where you both stand. Maybe that will help him understand it more.

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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I agree with the PP that it is a good idea to talk about this more with your partner. Obviously, don’t TTC until you are both ready for it.  But since he is not ready right now, it is smart to have discussions about what it means to put of TTC when you have PCOS. When the time to TTC does come, what lengths are you both willing to go to to get pregnant? Would you be open to medications, IUI, IVF, donor material, embryo donation, adoption? Are you willing to start setting aside money now to pay for these interventions in the future? Do research together about what PCOS may mean to your TTC journey and what options you have for fertility treatment in your area. Be informed. Nothing is more empowering than making informed decisions together as a couple. Good luck!

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Girlfriend I was the exact same way!  My dh wanted to wait until we are 30 too but I wore him down… Honestly he saw how broken I was about it and slowly came around.  It took a couple of years for him to become ready but I was the same, fearful it would take a while… Cycle number 3 now.  I would say just talk to him, explain why you’re anxious and see if you can meet halfway somehow.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

It’s so hard to see everybody else moving forward/getting what they want & you’re stuck waiting.  I feel you!  When I was waiting for a proposal, all I saw was others getting engaged/married!  Now we’re engaged and planning a wedding.  I am unable to get pregnant because of Turner Syndrome, and I know it will be hard when all the “when are you having kid” questions start!  The “when are you getting married???’s”will seem not so bad.  Hang in there!

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