(Closed) Indecision = Dress budget catastophe (VENT)

posted 8 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What should I do with this dress mess?
    Stick with the consignment dress. You're only going to wear it once! : (12 votes)
    30 %
    You only get to wear a wedding dress once, so it should be THE dress! At least try on the WHBM! : (28 votes)
    70 %
  • Post # 3
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    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Personally, I would try to find a way to afford the dress I really wanted. It sucks, but maybe you can find a way to do this? You should feel stunning on your wedding day and you don’t want to regret not getting THE dress (especially if you’re pretty sure you’ve found it). Seeing as you’re eloping, you’re at least saving a lot of the normal wedding costs, right? Just my opinion…

    Post # 4
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    310 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Have you thought about preownedwedding.com or the classifieds for something new?  Maybe even buying a sample since your short on time?  I’m not sure how to close you are to the states but maybe you could drive down.  Good luck!

    Post # 5
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    40 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Get the dress you are excited about! Then sell the first one that you bought!

    Post # 7
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    37 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2010 - Catalina Country Club, Catalina Island, California

    Do you have pics of the one you got on consigment? I love the new contender and it should be something you love but maybe you wont have that grand moment like you think you will…just saying. but YES you should at least try on the new one! maybe it is THE ONE.

    Post # 9
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    507 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m usually all for staying within a budget, but it makes me sad to read your comment about not liking to look at the pictures of you in your dress. πŸ™ I majorly regretted my dress decision when I got married the first time around and I hated to look at my wedding pictures, so I can tell you that it’s worth the money to get a dress you love and love to look at yourself in. πŸ™‚

    You look great in the consignment dress, but if it makes you unhappy to look at it, then you need to find another one! As far as how to go about it, I don’t have any advice there. You can try the WHBM one or keep looking online…but either way, keep looking! You’ll find the right one. πŸ™‚

    Post # 10
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    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Only you know how much going over your budget will mean to you and your fiance financially. So I try to avoid making judgement calls on $$$ as really only you can decide if it’s a small stretch or a stretch that is too far.

    BUT my only advice would be to make sure you do not spend another cent on a dress unless you can try it on first! It’s so important to see how you look/feel in the flesh before making a decision. I would try not to even become too tempted until you can see that dress (or one like it) on your own frame πŸ™‚

    Post # 11
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    4419 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I think both dresses are gorgeous!  What is it about the one you love that makes it special to you?

    I could totally see flowers and details being added to your current dress to make it look less plain. I did a little alterations with Photoimressions to show you how your dress might be able to altered to make it look more like the dress you love. 

    If making some alterations isn’t an option, then I truly believe you should have a dress you absolutely love. You only have one chance to get this wedding right, and you don’t want to have any regrets.

    Post # 12
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    489 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    i said at least try on the dream dress, but I agree with @Loribeth: that you can add to the dress you already have.  The only key difference is between A-line and mermaid.  Unless you have your heart set on a mermaid shape, maybe you can talk to your seamstress about adding some fabric flowers?  Etsy has a bunch that are reasonably priced.

    Post # 13
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    4547 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Adding to the dress you already have could be a great option! If you do decide to sell your dress and get another make sure you try it on first and are 100% sure you love it!

    Post # 14
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    648 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Boy do I know how you feel! I just ordered my third dress, it will be here next week and I’m super excited. My first dress was just not right in anyway. My second I like it on, but pictures look horrible. I’ve spent a total of $1000, so much for bargain shopping. However, my new dress is fully refundable for 90 days!

    Post # 15
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I would agree with Loribeth… consider adding something!  I think the dress is very pretty, and adding either the flowers or even a broach would spice it up very nicely.  Look around on etsy, for sure.

    Post # 16
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    249 posts
    Helper bee

    Ok here is my suggestion- the consigment dress could rather eaisly be altered to be more like the BHWM dress, having a seamstress pull it in more around your hips and adding some flowers to the bust line and hip- that way your not out for the consigment dress and having to pay for the BHWM dress. As Tim Gunn would say.. Make it work! Best of luck

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