Post # 1
It’s nearly time for my SO and I to pick out a ring, and I’m just so indecisive about choosing a center stone. After a lot of debate and trying on rings, I decided I wanted a setting that I’d be happy with keeping for the rest of my life. I’ve seen a lot of threads here where ladies have ring regret, and I don’t want to end up like that. I’ve narrowed it down to three Tacori settings with the original plan of setting it with a Moissanite, then eventually getting a diamond to replace it in a few years once my student loans, etc. are paid off.
My problem is that when I started thinking about it, I’m worried that if the ring is set to the Moissanite, in the future when I go to change the stone, the slight differences in the diamond cut/size may not work with the setting.
I’ve tried on diamond rings and I love their cut and sparkle, but I’ve never seen a moissanite in real life, so I’m afraid I won’t like it. Sometimes in pictures they appear a bit flat and splintery (depending on the angle, of course).
I searched through James Allen, and there are a few diamonds that could be within our price range, however, they’re warmer (J colour). I don’t mind warm diamonds, I think they’re nice, however, 2 of the settings have halos of G stones, so I’m worried it would look silly with a warmer stone in the center. The third setting requires a bigger diamond, which would be out of our price range.
I know in the end the ring really doesn’t matter – I’m more excited just to get engaged, and eventually married! But of course, I’m a classic over-analyzer so I thought I’d consult the experts!
Thanks for your help 🙂
Post # 2
For reference, this would be the ring with a warmer diamond in it. Possibly in rose gold. Sorry if the pic is huge, I’m posting from my phone!
Post # 3
Isnt it fun picking out your ring? But it can be stressful. If you do not mind warm diamonds then get what you love. Honestly it is difficult to see the difference between the color differences within a few shades once diamonds are set so do not worry. The main thing you will notice is if the diamond is not cut well. A poorly cut diamond will stand out more so than color of a well cut stone. Look at some pics of taccori settings online and on price scope. And also research warmer diamonds that are set in halos. You may find that you like more contrast. I looked at diamonds by Laurens website when I was unsure about purchasing a warmer diamond and their peices sold me on the beauty of warm diamonds.
try not to get caught up into specs. Just find something you love.
If anything I am a bit disappointed that my diamond looks colorless most of the time and not brown. It is cut very well and the light dances across it and radiates rainbows of colors and flashes of white. It looked much more brown before it was set. But i guess you buy diamonds for the sparkle, and even the low/warm colors will sparkle if they are cut well.
Post # 4
Lokie85: Thanks for the advice! It is so stressful – now I know how the men feel! The diamonds I was looking at were all excellent cut, thankfully.
I am going to check out the diamonds by Lauren website too.
Post # 5
webbee: Best advise i can give you is to look at videos of moissanite on Youtube. They are far more informative visually than pictures. Moissanite is stunning but can have a different look to diamonds. The round cut is the one that is the most similar to diamond. Its super sparkly and stunning and now comes as Forever One which is D E F coloured so it will be white. It actually has a blueish tint to it in day light. Definitely check out Youtube!
Post # 6
webbee: Even if there is a small differences in size between the moissanite and your diamond, you still should be able to re-set with a diamond later (if that’s what you choose to do), you just may have to have the prongs change out or the stone will sit a little lower or higher depending on whether it is smaller or larger than the moissanite.
I have a warm diamond (J) in a rose gold halo with G diamonds in it, I think the contrast looks just fine but some people don’t like it, so I would try to see a combo like this in person before buying. You could go into a chain jewelry store (if you’re in the US, Shane Co is a good one) that carries halos and loose diamonds. They can show you what a warm diamond would look like in a halo with higher color diamonds. This is exactly what I did before we got mine, so I was confident that I would like it.
I had never seen a moissanite in person either, but one of my colleagues recently got engaged and has one. I think it’s really very beautiful. When looking at it closely (while she was telling me about it and explaining the background of the ring), I could tell it wasn’t a diamond before she even told me, but that’s not a bad thing, just something to be aware of if that’s important to you – but very few people would be staring at your hand that closely.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2016 - San Clemente Church, Italy
I love me a warm diamond! My center is an H and the halo and sides are in the colorless range. A GIA J color is still very white. I like the contrast between the extra white diamonds and my warmer H center. Have you searched the boards to see a variety of them in halos?
The other option is to have a halo of near colorless stones which are in the same range as a J. There are some L’s and K’s on this site that are stunning and face up pretty white. You could go larger and/or better cut that way.
Is there a way to see an actual Moissy in person so that you can better decide?
Post # 8
I’m a mossy girl through and through, but they cannot compete with a diamond. They just can’t. If it’s in your budget, diamond all the way.
Post # 9
A “J”, if graded by GIA, is still going to face up quite white AND if you get an excellent cut (please go see them over at Pricescope to help you select a stone, don’t just go by JA saying it’s ideal cut and so on) it will show up even whiter and brighter. Diamond colour is graded FACE DOWN, not face up, where you see more body colour. You aren’t looking at it face down in your setting! Lots of people, even on Pricescope, go down to a GIA I/J to get more size and I bet if you go over there you can find some I/J centres with higher colour halos. G sidestones aren’t going to be that remarkable of a difference if you get an excellent cut J. Only you can determine if the colour or contrast will bother you, I am actually someone who is very colour sensitive but I LIKE some warmth in most diamond cuts. I have an antique cut K centre with H sidestones and love the subtle contrast in some lighting, in other lighting it all just looks like white sparkle!
Otherwise, you can order some loose moissanites in person to see. Moissanite Co for example has a good return policy. You can also get a Forever One, which will be colourless.
You can also look at an Amora Gem which are also colourless (unless you get an in demand near-colourless G).
Being able to replace your stone is a concern as depending on the setting, it might not be doable so just make sure you choose a setting which will allow them to rework or replace the head or prongs down the road if need be.
I love moissanites AND diamonds, but if your budget allows, and you are comfortable with diamonds, I’d go with a diamond in your shoes. If a diamond is your ideal forever stone, and you can get your forever stone now, go for it, rather than worry about having to find a stone later that fits the parameters of your setting.
Here is my K with H stones in the halo. Keep in mind my centre stone is an antique cushion and will show more colour than an Ring Bearer would. See how it looks different in different lights, though.
Post # 10
I’d def go for a diamond over a moissonite, but thats just my preference. Some warm diamonds are beautfiul and a lot face up white. If you set it in yellow or rose gold, itll look stunning. Even a white gold setting will still be beautifil since diamonds are soooo sparkly no one will notice the color.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2017 - The Summit Country Day School Chapel/The Hilton Netherland Plaza Hall of Mirrors
Here is my K surrounded by F-G colored diamonds in the halo.
Post # 12
lawandbeauty53: +1 a GIA J is still pretty white!
Personally, if you were going to upgrade it to a diamond in a few years anyways I would just skrimp and save a little extra and get the warm diamond (again, a J is still pretty white!) especially if you tried them on and loved them! Not saying that I don’t like moissys, but IMO if you don’t want them as your forever stone just go with the diamond!
Post # 13
princessforever77: Looks like I’m spending my lunch break on YouTube!! haha
RayKay: Thanks for the suggestion! I’ll go make a Pricesope account and hopefully they can help me out 🙂 I was considering the Amora Gem Ultra as well because it seems like it has a nicer cut than a moissanite, but there’s currently a waiting list for it on Better Than Diamond
lawandbeauty53: So far the closest place I’ve found that actually carries Moissanite is about a 4 hour drive. Hopefully I can find something closer!
operaninja: Your ring is beautiful, I love it!!
Sorry if I missed anyone, but I really appreciate all the advice. It’s very helpful!
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2016 - San Clemente Church, Italy
operaninja: Yes, this is a perfect example of what I was talking about! It’s gorgeous.
Post # 15
RayKay: Your pictures just showed up after I hit reply. Love the ring! And I honestly don’t see a significant difference between your center and halo. I think they complement each other well!