Post # 1
Fellow bees, I need your help!
Darling Husband and I have been invited to our friends wedding and are super excited to attend since neither of us has ever been to an Indian wedding. We’re invited to a attend breakfast ceremony, lunch, cocktail and dinner/reception. All in one day! So exciting.
I was wondering if any fellow Indian bees would help me with a few things.
1- what’s appropriate as a monetary gift? In my tradition (white Canadian) we usually give the equivalent of the dinner cost. Would the same apply here? I don’t know if we can afford such a big monetary gift though given the three meals provided. The couple specifically asked for no box gifts.
2- what is an appropriate outfit for the morning? Do guests change throughout the day or just wear the same outfit for breakfast as in the evening?
Appreciative of any input! Thanks in advance 🙂
Post # 2
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Post # 3
Also curious. 🙂
Sounds like an amazing day!
Post # 4
I’m not Indian but I’ve been to several South Asian weddings (Indian and Pakistani). I would give the same amount of cash you’d otherwise give, in a card. Someone may come around to collect them.
When I’ve been invited to the whole day, I’ve worn the same thing all day. Wear a bright colored dress (not white, it’s for funerals) and your husband can wear a suit. Don’t worry about outshining the bride, you will never have seen so many crystals in your life. I think one of the brides I saw wore lime green (she changed, I don’t think the others did), another red, and another bright peach.
The ceremony probably will not be in English and they probably won’t explain much. The bride may enter under a chuppah-type thing (sorry, I don’t know it’s name but a pretty decorated piece of fabric on 4 poles carried by the bridesmaids over the bride’s head down the aisle, reminds me of when I carried the chupphah in a Jewish wedding, through I know Jewish chupphahs are often more substantial and the whole ceremony takes place under it.). If I remember right, none of them walked down with their dads, who were already sitting with the moms at the altar. There will probably be a choreographed dance at the reception, likely by the bridesmaids. The food will be delicious! There will be LOTS of dancing!
Post # 5
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
I’m indian! I would say about 200$ should be ok. Guests sometimes give thousands of dollars depending on how close they are to the couple (and how much they want to show off lol) If you are going to purchase something to wear for the wedding, look for shalwar or lehnga.. I would stay away from white, black and red. Anything else should be fine. Usually there are days of ceremonies. It seems like the couple may have combined a few into one day. I have never been to a ceremony in the morning. The ceremony done in the morning are either.. cleansing of the bride and groom.. where the bride is bathed in tumeric…or the henna ceremony. Also the groom is supposed to travel to the location of the bride. Usually less fancy clothing is worn… tumeric stains lol. At night.. bring out the sparkle and sequins! There is usually no kiss. You know the couple is married when they circle the ceremonial fire… connected… 7 times.
Post # 6
I can’t help, but I love Indian culture and would love to go to a wedding! Have fun!
Post # 7
mexicalijennie: Ooh exciting!
Re gift I’d give what you normally gift for a Western wedding. The breakfast is likely to be a buffet and dinner is likely to be family style so the cost per guest is probably not that dissimilar to a single meal with entree choices at a western wedding.
For clothing I’d agree with pp and steer away from White (funerals), Red (bridal) and Black (unlucky). Some people will change between the morning and afternoon but it’s fine not too. If the evening reception has dancing I’d consider traditional indian dress in the morning and bring a regular dress to change into for the party!