(Closed) Indian-Chinese-American-Hindu-Christian wedding! Are these too many events?!

posted 6 years ago in South Asian
Post # 3
1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m exhausted just reading your schedule!!! I think you should loosen up on your schedule and not expect guests to go straight from one thing to another. I know I need my nap time!! lol.

Post # 4
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Could you possible do more on Sunday and less on Friday and Saturday? It would still make for a very full weekend, but may give you and your guests some down time in between?

Post # 5
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh My, sounds EXHAUSTING! I think the issue here is trying to do so much in 3 days… Indian weddings I have been a part of are super tiring, but they are generally spread over a week, at least 5days. 

Perhaps the cost can’t be reduced that much… But maybe the tiredness can be?

How about starting on a Thursday with the Garba, mehndi (though this may mean you getting yours done separately)

Is there anyway there post pooja lunch can be home cooked, rather than externally catered? Moving the days may mean a weekday discount.

I know that Hindu ceremonies have to be held at auspicious times, but is there anyway you could maybe make it later so you don’t need to have a lunch afterwards and then move into a cocktail hour post pictures?

There is so much you have to do, it will be daunting. I would strongly suggest buliding some time into all of that for you and hubby to be together.

I am a bit useless at venues etc, as I am in the UK. But ask family who have thrown a reception for similar numbers or weddings that specialise in Indian/Chinese food.

I think your main issue might be the fact you are having so many functions… And as your culture is important to you both, think about what you can skimp on (maybe less people at the non ceremonial functions, etc) so you can include all those important elements.




Post # 6
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

wow is all i can say im tired reading that schedule too. could u break it up into more days? thursday through sunday/monday if you plan on memorial weekend. are you on the east coast or west coast -that would probably be helpful for venue suggestions

Post # 7
2335 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@cashbarsarecheap:  Flagged


OP- I love how many cultures you are integrating together, this whole wedding sounds fascinating and beautiful.  Is the Hindu ceremony the main focus for you?  If not, I would suggest putting whatever the ‘main event’ is on Saturday- whether that be the Christian, Chinese Tea, or Hindu ceremony.

Friday looks fine.  There is a pooja, lunch, naptime break, and then ceremonies and dinner.  This is really similiar to a bridesmaid luncheon and rehearsal dinner schedule that many Western brides follow on Friday, so no big deal.

I do think you could cut down some of the time on Saturday to make things more manageable for yourself.  Starting at 9am seems crazy!  I also don’t think you need to provide lunch to your guests.  I looked up what Jaan is- a blessing for the groom, right?  So how about this schedule:

11-12 Jaan

12-2  Bridal party pics

2-3  Take a breather, bridal party eats lunch

3-5  Hindu ceremony

5-6  Family pictures.  Are you keeping all of the guests captive for this?  Or having a few photos and then letting them go to a cocktail hour?  I don’t think keeping 350 people around for an hour of photos is realistic.

5:30-6:30  Cocktail hour.  This allows for 30 minutes of group photos and transportation time, the bridal party & parents miss cocktail hour while they finish up their pictures

6:30-12:00  Reception

Post # 8
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Dude, this sounds about right.  Splitting everything up into two days is really normal for all the Indian girls I know.  However, for the Mendhi party, why don’t you do this the week before?  Also:  for the professional pics, i’d do them before the christian ceremony so you could have a mix of western/eastern photos.  I’d also say cut the guest list to save on costs.  Also:  check out Indian banquet halls, where you can get things catered by the hall, but also order in Chinese appies.  Not sure where you live, or if you even have indian banquet  halls where you are, but I think it’d be the most economical place to have a dinner.

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