Indian Fusion Wedding! Need Help!

posted 3 years ago in South Asian
Post # 2
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Helper bee

What city are you in? It’s often easier/better to order through a brick & mortar store instead of online. (I have recs depending on where you are.) Shalwar kameez is fine, so is lengha choli or sarees (but you may want to ask about the store stitching sarees depending on whether you’ll have someone who can help put them on).

Also- do you have any sense of budget you or your girls are okay spending? Is your fiance’s family Hindu? (That may also make a difference.) Is there anyone in his family you’d be comfortable talking to about this or have you been to his family weddings or fancy family events before?

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’m a bridesmaid in an Indian wedding later this year. I ordered a sari and a lehenga from utsavfashion.com and I’m very happy with the quality. They have an excellent selection. Cbazaar.com is another website that is similar. Kalkifashion.com has more high-end things, that are lovely but more expensive.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’ve used Utsav (online website) for all of my bridesmaids’ sarees and the quality has been great. Admittedly I made sure to not by anything made of artificial materials (all 100% cotton or linen). I didn’t get the blouses or petticoats stitched so I can’t speak to the tailoring, but the fabrics themselves are nice and their delivery is usually very fast. 

If you’re looking to get suits (salwars) for them, then I’d definitely recommend a brick and mortar store. Safer and their sizing will be more accurate.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Check out Rumena Begum (Rumena_101) on instagram. She reviews a lot of Pakistani and Indian clothing. She’s even launching her own line of clothes soon the prices of those outfits are pretty reasonable compared to actual clothes you get in India or Pakistan. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Rebecca Boggs :  you really need exact measurements if any of them are tall. Ready made pants never ever fit me and I’m 5′ 8″. I have to get them sewn according to my size. And just guessing sizes in general is very difficult :/ it’s not like guessing a typical dress size 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I’m no expert, but having spent a bit of time living in India I would advise against ordering anything without their measurements. A lot of Indian clothing is typically not stretchy at all & often has no zippers or buttons (depending on the type of clothing), so you really need the fit to be right or they either won’t be able to get them on or will look like they’re wearing sacks. Tailoring is typically so affordable in South Asia that I believe a lot of the time clothes are just intended to be tailored to the person.

I’d also advise against saris, if you’re going to be ordering them for the bridesmaids without them knowing. Americans who aren’t used to wearing saris may feel uncomfortable with the midriff-baring blouse, especially if they didn’t get to choose whether to wear it or not. It would be one thing if they were picking them out themselves, but that might not be a welcome surprise for some people if they feel self-conscious about their bodies at all. Also sari blouses in particular are always meant to be tailored for the person, plus trying to wrap all the saris on the day of when none of you know how sounds like a nightmare. They’re very complicated to put on! 

Why not ask for their measurements but not tell them what exactly it’s for? They’ll know something is up but they’ll still be very surprised by the outfits themselves. You could do a lehenga choli (I’ve seen a few cut where there’s only a small strip of skin between the blouse & the skirt, which might be nice) or I think an anarkali suit would be quite lovely.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Rebecca Boggs :  sorry, I don’t know shops in FL. It is probably easiest to get them sarees (sarees are basically a a long piece of fabric and practically one size fits all) instead of shalwar kameez if you don’t want to get their measurements in advance. The only problem is the cholis (tops for the sarees) are by measurements. Maybe you can just get them one size fits all more casual/spandex-type tops instead to avoid finding out measurements. Sarees are the only desi type of clothing I know of that is close to one size fits all and some are in your price range.

And the issue with clothing and religion for that region would usually be for Muslims, not Hindus, but glad it’s not an issue for you regardless. Are you getting married in a church? If so, would you want your bridesmaids’ stomachs covered in the church?

Post # 10
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Helper bee

beeleez :  +1 on many bridesmaids being uncomfortable if they don’t know they’re supposed to wear sarees in advance and don’t agree to it.

if you get them, you also need to make sure you get the needed petticoats (underskirts) for them too. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’m wearing a sari as a Bridesmaid or Best Man in an upcoming wedding and yes, the blouse doesn’t cover my stomach, but the sari itself does cover my stomach completely. I’m not Indian and I’m totally excited to get to wear a sari. My friend (the bride) has assured us all that there will be plenty of Indian ladies available to help us tie our saris on the morning of her wedding, so I’m not worried about that.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Salwaar Kameez will be a pain because of measurements,

you can either get saree and get streachable blouse like this so that you do not have to custom order each.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B015RLQL2C?ref_=cm_sw_r_pi_dp_x_LWnhyb8TR8YBT&pldnSite=1

But Sarees will be a pain to wear especially if you do not know how. I would suggest sticking with lehenga.

While I do not know the credibility I have seen some really nice ones here;

https://www.cbazaar.com/women/clothing/lehengas/a-line-lehenga?action=1&filter=color&color=blue&color=gold&sv=%5B49_9476_2_52%5D

 

Alternatively, you can buy one of these kinf of dresses and buy a gold shawl and it will look like lehenga 🙂

https://www.amazon.com/Miusol-Womens-Casual-Sleeveless-Vintage/dp/B00Z2LC398/ref=sr_1_1?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1487915999&sr=1-1&nodeID=1045024&keywords=long+dress

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

Borrow it Bindass does rentable bridesmaids dresses for South Asian weddings! It’s the same concept as Rent the Runway.

I love the stretchable blouse idea. Might work if the rest of the sari is a little bit heavier (ready made blouses tend to be pretty simple).

Are they wearing Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses for both ceremony and reception, or just one? Maybe allow them to wear an outfit of their choice for one part of the day, and coordinated clothes for the other part (whether ceremony or reception)?

Lastly keep in mind that saris will be the easiest to fit everyone and the cheapest, but it’s hard to dance in them. Lehngas and anarkalis are easiest to dance in but are more expensive and need measurements. 

Orlando is a little tough…where are you planning to shop for your clothes? I would recommend Chicago (Devon Ave) or NYC (Jackson Heights, QNs), or New Jersey if you could swing there for your clothes and get your Bridesmaid or Best Man clothes as well? Maybe you could make a whole weekend out of it (shop with your BMs, bach party, and shower?).

The last alternative I would suggest is that nowadays 2 piece American dresses with long hoop skirts and a crop top are all the rage, both in the US and in India. Since you have a fusion wedding, why not go for a fusion look? Something like this but maybe in a silkier skirt: http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/sequin-hearts-two-piece-gown/4549635?origin=category-personalizedsort&fashioncolor=NAVY

I would definitely ask your BM’s what they are comfortable wearing and what they want to spend. Indian clothes will probably cost more than $100 each, so maybe you could cover the extra and/or jewelery? Make sure it’s something they can either rent or wear again (do they have other desi friends weddings to attend?)

Post # 14
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Wannabee

I’m indian but live in the US, I buy stretchy crop tops from stores like forever 21 and use them as saree blouses all the time! I would suggest a saree if you can find people to help your girls put them on instead of salwar suits because that’ll be easier to do without measurements. As for online places, utsav and cbazaar are great, kalki is a bit on the pricier side. I’ve also used saree.com and ordered from them, they have a new feature where you can facetime with them and see the actual product before ordering!

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