- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Hi everyone, today m finally here after having being frustrated for 2.3 yrs of my marriage. Me n my husband have been staying together with my SIL from the day 1 we got married who is hardly 3 yrs younger to my husband. Like every couple, during our understanding period, everytime she used to inform my in laws regarding our (me n my husband’s) conflicts. And then I had and even now also (when m 9 months pregnant) I am always tried to make understand that it’s me who needs to understand always and the same old Indian thinking “men are superior to women and I need to follow whatever he says”. Even i’ve heard the conversation b/w my husband and Mother-In-Law in which he is completely disrespecting me and my family. He literally tells his mom each and everything whatever discussion we have (exact same wordings). 🙁 when I got to know about this, I m literally hurt and has lost trust over him, since I cannot trust him now as prior to saying anything to him, I need to think n no. Of times as it has left an impact over me that nothing is personal b/w us.
When I tried to discuss the matter with him, he got annoyed and said that if I won’t listen/agree to whatever he say, he will get his parents involved everytime. And again as he involved his parents, his parents again gave me a big lecture. And the worst part being, similar situation had arised earlier also due to which the relationship b/w our parents got disturbed since I had been suffering since last 2 yrs and finally I called up my parents that time. As a result of the discussions, my in laws felt offended (saying we are the groom side and we can do anything and I need to follow whatever they say). Even my Father-In-Law said to my dad very casually that we had asked her to hand over all my finance related stuff like debit cards n all and even transfer all my salary to him (to which I had not agreed since the time I got married) and as per them I can ask my husband for money anytime whenever I need. Also I don’t have to ask my husband regarding how he’s utilising his n mine salary. When I denied for this they started saying to my husband that I don’t respect him and don’t trust him, which certainly started being reason of our conflicts. Now these people do not want my parents to join me along with these people for delivery in hospital which is a big need for me. I requested my husband for same but again he talked to his mom with disrespect for my parents and finally they said that we will inform them whenever there would be either their need or when there would be a good news.
M the only daughter of my family and my parents n brothers are really excited about this as it’s my first kid and like me, they are also dying to join me at this big event of my life.
My really upset coz of all this and really don’t know how to convince these people for this. Can anyone please suggest what can be done in this situation 😢 any girl starts trusting her spouse after her parents, but that trust is also currently broken.
Please suggest as m gonna have my delivery day after tomorrow.
Looking forward for some good advices.