Post # 1
Since my mom and sister (chief wedding-planning helpers) have become distracted by events in their own lives, I need more help from the Bees! Here’s the situation:
We are getting married June 2 in Cle Elum, WA — a town just on the other side of the Cascade mountains from Seattle. The weather there isn’t the usual Seattle rain because of the mountains, and in fact the place we’re getting married is called Suncadia because the weather is so predictably pretty. The winery we’re getting married at has also just built a new outdoor gazebo for weddings, and we’d be among the first couples to use it! The gazebo looks like this:
My concern is that while the snow will be gone by June, it may not quite be as warm as I’d like … or maybe it’ll be TOO warm, who knows? So I want to have a firm cutoff in my mind for what is and is not appropriate for having the ceremony outdoors versus indoors!
I want to be very decisive on the day of, not waffling back and forth and changing my mind 20 minutes before the ceremony’s supposed to start. I’d like to have my decision by, say, 3PM the day of our 5PM wedding. If it is raining or threatening to rain, I’ll call it for sure. But what if it isn’t?
What if it’s, say 60F and breezy? The bridesmaids are in short halter dresses. That’s a little cold.
What if it’s sticky humid and cloudy/foggy because it’s going to rain in a few hours? That seems unpleasant. I guess I need some advice from people who have either been part of or attended outdoor weddings where you thought, “wow, this really should NOT be outside today.” It helps that the indoor version of the venue is also pretty amazing! Here’s the room we’d be in if the weather is uncooperative:
Those doors would be open, so we’d get some great silhouette shots from the back of the room. Though we plan to take posed shots like that anyway.
HELP ME PLEASE!!! I really don’t want to be that bridezilla who forces everyone to endure a ceremony outside when it’s really not quite comfortable for them, but I want to have a very clear idea of where that cutoff is because I’m sure I won’t be thinking straight an hour before my ceremony 🙂
Post # 3
My wedding is planned to be in the morning outdoors at the beach in July. My venue said that we will discuss options 2 days prior when accurate weather reports are available, but that the final call won’t need to be made until the morning of the wedding. Pretty much the only thing that will move me indoors is a torrential downpour.
Post # 4
I think you might be overthinking this. First question, how long is your ceremony? 60F and breeze is totally fine to stand out side in a halter dress for 30 -40 minuets, they might not be warm and perfect, but it isn’t unreasonable in the slightest. If you are really concerned have a chair on the side reserved for jackets that they can put on after the ceremony and before pictures start to warm them up a little bit.
The only reason I would send people in side is if they were getting wet. As a wedding guest if I know a wedding is going to be outside I normally have a sweater or cute little jacket along to make sure I won’t be cold unless I think people are generally capable of taking care of themselves. If they are getting wet or blowing away send them inside. If they are sitting in a slight breze but its 60, or even 58, I woudln’t worry about it.
Post # 5
Oh wow… honestly, I’d do the indoor ceremony! That’s almost guaranteed to be comfortable for your guests AND provide amazing photos no matter what the weather outside is like.
Post # 6
Yeah, I think the fact that the indoor venue is SO AMAZING makes me more willing to consider moving it in there if the outside isn’t all it’s cracked up to be that day. For all I know, it will be 75 and sunny and this whole discussion will be irrelevant 🙂 I can just foresee my mother pressing hard for the outdoor wedding for the sole reason that we’ll be among the first to use the gazebo, and I want to be ready to push back hard if that’s not what I think is best! If it’s all windy and my veil is whipping around, that’s going to annoy me. And if the ground is wet and my train is dragging on it and getting nasty, that’s going to annoy me too.
Mother did throw out the idea of getting shrugs to match the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. Personally I don’t want to shell out for them, nor do I want to make the BMs shell out for them, so I’ll leave that ball in my mom’s court. If she wants to be outdoors come hell or high water, she can get shrugs for everyone!!