(Closed) Infatuated with the town but not the house (long)

posted 8 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Don’t rush it!  Thats what we did for our first house (our current house) and we are kind of regretting it.  We had our reservations about the size (900 square feet) and location (on a busy street – taxes are expensive).  Hoever, we were adament that we wanted to get out of apartment, get a dog (love him!), and have our own yard/space, so we brushed the uneasiness off and dove in!  2 1/2 years later we are writing a list of what we absolutely will not settle for!!  Its a big purchase and you don’t want to be rushing it!!  Write out a list of pros and cons and discuss it – if it sells too fats then it wasn’t meant to be!

 

and Good Luck either way :o)

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

The area looks gorgeous. Wait until you can see the inside before you stress too much, Once you get in there you may see things that will definately make or break your decision. Maybe everything inside will be so nive you won’t mind having a little smaller yard. Or maybe it will not be at all what you are looking for. If it doesn’t work out, don’t feel stressed to find something. Eventually you will find the right one.

We looked at so many houses we finally said we were going to do one more day of looking and if we didn’t find something we would rent another year. Our last house was one I picked out to look at and we knew right when we walked through it and met the neighbors that it was the house for us.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Don’t settle. But, be realistic about a first home, too. We bought kinda big and there are STILL things i want in the next house, like a bigger kitchen. A small kitchen is really stifling and mine isn’t even small!

And a yard is definitely something peopel regret later. My SIL is selling her home and buying a new one b/c the yard’s too small now that they have kids. I think it’s fine, but that’s me. I’m not a yard person. If it’s what you want, you’ll regret it soon.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Does your Fiance know how you feel?  If you let him know before you go it will be a lot easier than if you wait until after the showing if he happens to love it.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

When we bought ours it seemed like it was too easy as well…We saw the house, which was only on the market for 5 days, negotiated a price, and were in the house within 3 weeks!  It all flew by, but when we did our final walk-though, had the keys in our hand, I sat in the car and cried a little because it was our first big purchase together and step towards the future (We weren’t engaged yet).

But always go w/ your gut…whats holding you back from feeling excited?  Finances?  Don’t get something only because “its a really good deal” – get something because your whole heart is in it!  And while Mom’s insight is helpful – she won’t be living there!  Just visiting….therefore she may write things off as being “good enough” when to you it is a necessity.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

It sounds like the pros outweigh the cons, at least for me.  And they do say, “location, location, location!”  I agree that (as impossible as it is) try to not stress about it too much until you actually see the inside.  You’ll probably be able to make a confident decision after that.  Let us know how it goes and good luck!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I agree w/ Caitlanc…..the pros seem to outweigh the cons.  Good Luck on doing the walk though – it will give you a better understanding of the house and a vision of your new family living there.  Also – think about the costs of knocking down a wall or remodeling the kitchen, painting the house and doing some landscaping.  Will you have the time, know how, and patience to do it all?

Let us know how it goes!

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yay for lists! You can’t have everything you want with a first home (for the most part, or unless you’re rich!) so as long as the cons aren’t dealbreakers, go for it!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We just recently bought a house and the saying is true: LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION. 

You can change the inside of a house, but you can’t change where it is located!  You are being very smart to look at the footprint of the house, you can change things around if there is enough space etc.

Also, we wanted a big yard because we like privacy and we have a dog and eventually want kids.  We originally wanted 8+ acres, but everything we could afford with that much land was in the middle of no where.  Every day I would have to drive almost an hour to work, the grocery store would be like 30 minutes, etc. We “settled” with 3/4 of an acre.  We have a beautiful neighborhood and still have plenty of trees on our property.  I would actually say we have more space in the yard then we need.  You spend your time inside, not outside. 

Best wishes!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I just bought a house as well and can also vouch for location, location, location. We bought from 3 states away and in two weekends we narrowed down our search to within only 2 towns. And, even areas of those particular towns that we liked much better. We factored in the cost of property taxes, the neighborhoods, access to highways, quality of schools (this one is important, you may not care right now, but the next family that buys the house from you might), etc. and then we focused on homes that were only available in those areas we had narrowed down.  I don’t regret the decision at all.

You can remodel, take down a wall and change things in the interior of the house, but you can’t change the location. Plus, it’s very unlikely that you will live here for the rest of your life, so enjoy the fabulous things about this place for a while and then be more picky on the next place.

Best of luck.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Since you’re in Sweden, is there any kind of home inspections you can do to make sure it’s in proper condition? Or research into why it’s still on the market?

If what you’re saying is true that most houses go in 1 week and this one has been around a month, then perhaps there’s a reason others haven’t bought it?

Again – it could be something as simple as those “easy” fixes you talked about.

We just put on offer down for our first house. It was really scary in the amount of money, etc… but we came to a realization that if we don’t spend THAT money on this… we’re going to spend the same amount of another house, most likely NOT in the location we like best.  So, while it needs LOTS of easy fixes, the neighborhood is where we want to be. Then again, it also had everything on our list and then some.. so it was easy to say “don’t let it go!”

That being said, there was an offer put in before us. We don’t know if the others are being given a chance to trump our bid or not, and we might not even get it! lol

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