Post # 1
Hi ladies I am having one of those down days .I just had my first IUI with clomid and trigger shot at my OBGYN the other day and the PA was really not optimistic about our chances . She told me this while I was on the table before she even did the IUI . She said we shouldn’t even do another and move right on to IVF . I wanted to cry right there . I have PCOS and am responding really well to clomid , I had 4 mature follicles but she said my husbands counts are just too low .They could not give me a number as they can not do that there . Another reason I know I need to move on to an RE , our appointment is next month . Darling Husband had undescended testicles and is seeing a urologist to help improve his counts and morphology .
I would start IVF right away but the cost is in our way . We start new insurance in August that covers IUI ( our insurance now covers nothing ) so I was hoping to do a few rounds of IUI . IVF of course is not covered . We are looking into grants in our state but not sure if we will qualify .
Obviously I know no one will be able to tell us when we will be successful , I guess I’m just looking for some kind words. This whole process just hurts emotionally . I know we have not been trying as long as some of you ladies (14 months) but it looks like we are in this for the long haul . We have 4 first birthday parties next month and I’m just dreading that . One of the moms just delivered her second this month , 11 months apart . So naturally everyone is going to be all baby talk . Blah ! Sorry this whole post sounds like I’m whining , but some days it feels like my heart is breaking .
Post # 2
My heart hurts for you bee <3 I can’t imagine what you must be going through, especially when friends are having their own children. Don’t ever think you are whining! We are all here for you.
Post # 3
Colormepink : hugs! We had the same thing at our first IUI but we used what we he had since I was there and ovulating. I hope you have better luck than us as we are meeting with our RE in September to start IVF. It sucks and sometimes it’s ok to come find a safe space and have a temper tantrum and let it all out!
Post # 4
My heart goes out to you! I did 5 IUI’s with great numbers and they all failed. But we got pregnant naturally right before our IVF consultation. I’m sure your RE will have some suggestions to help your husbands count go up, and if you have IUI’s covered, definitely try a few more if this one fails! Try to keep hope alive, it can happen at any time, with any count and any number of follicles. Stay strong xo
Post # 5
I’m so sorry. I’m kind of in the same place. Just had my first IUI yesterday (2 follies with femara). We were actually given a success rate (15%). This is our 16th cycle and I totally understand your difficulties. All my best friends had babies in the past year. It’s devastating. As for IVF, we will be paying all out of pocket as well. Given the low success rates, I’m just using these IUIs as stepping stones to IVF in my heart and just mentally preparing to do IVF. An 85% failure rate isn’t worth getting my hopes up for. Of course, I do hope you break the odds and have success. Good luck and hugs! Hang in there! This will be over at some point!
Post # 6
Colormepink : hug I understand and it sucks. We just went through our first MC after 10 months TTC. My neighbor just told me she got her BFP after 1 month of trying. It’s not fair
Post # 7
First off, I’m sorry the nurse said that to you while you were on the table! How insensitive, whether it’s true or not!! Dealing with that stuff she should know how emotional infertility is. Second, I will keep my fingers crossed so tight that it works!! We are dealing with MFI and I’m not sure we’d even quality for IUI’s. Meeting with a fertility specialist in a few weeks to see what our plan is. Depending on what they say will base whether we try and IUI or go straight to IVF. So I definitely feel your pain… this process has been 100% different and harder than I ever imagined!