(Closed) Infertility Thread, Part III

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

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@Rosie Girl: Neat story… My co-worked used IVF to have her son 2 years ago (after a few years of trying unsuccessfully) and at the place she went to they offered a harpist to play music during the procedure. She agreed to it and said that Canon in D was one of the 2-3 songs she remembers being played during the procedure. She said it made the whole experience more emotional and that now whenever she hears Canon in D she starts crying because it reminds of her of the IVF and how it worked and gave her her little boy, Xander! She plays it for him sometimes on the computer (he just turned two) and tells him this is “their song”. She said to me that when he gets married someday she is going to tell him that she won’t give them any suggestions or requests for his wedding, but one. She said she wants him to escort her down the aisle before the ceremony to Canon in D, because it is “their song”. Isn’t that so sweet? I teared up when she told me the story!!

 

Thought of this when MerryC mentioned a different intimacy. I feel like my co-worker Amy’s story shows how intimate and special her IVF was and the bond she shares with her son now over that song is just amazing to me!

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@sweetkate: I think we will the next day! It surprised me that my DH would feel that way. I can see girls being more sentimental about things, but not my husband! We talked about it though, and he feels ok with it, and wants to do it, but I just think he never really thought it would come to this, and maybe that is why he is having a more difficult time with the idea.

Post # 469
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@Jenn23: That is amazing!!!! That is really cool that they did that, and to have a song that ties it all together. Its so sweet!

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

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@Jenn23:  I teared up reading that!!!  That is so special!! 

It also gave me an idea for if (when) we have to go through IVF – a play list of calming songs/songs that are important to us (our “song”, our first dance song, etc) to take something that could be so clinical and make it a little more personal and intimate.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@Candy_Nee: That is such a great idea! It would be really nice to have something like that, and it would make it more initmate and personal, and not soo clinical. Plus, then all those songs would have an extra special meaning and whenever you heard them, you would think of that day!

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

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@Candy_Nee: Isn’t it such a great story? She said it was very intimate and that she cried afterwards and she and her husband were just filled with so many emotions. A few weeks later she got the great news!!! She also said she has a photo of the three fertilized eggs that the doctor gave her. One of those is now her son! She said, “How cool is it that I have a picture of my son when he was THAT tiny?! Only IVF you can have that!”  Pretty cool! I think your idea of playing your special songs with your husband sounds great. I would probably do the exact same thing! That’ll make it even more special and personal! ๐Ÿ™‚

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

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@Jenn23:  Such a sweet story!  Thanks for sharing.  (and sorry I mixed your date up!)

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@Candy_Nee: that’s a really great idea.  I think I might make a little playlist even for the IUI.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@Jenn23: She has pictures of the eggs too?! That is so crazy that they can do that! And amazing to see that and then look at her son, and be like, that was you!

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

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@MerryC: No problem. 3 more days! Just copy and paste the previous comment to me on Thursday. haha  I think a playlist for the IUI sounds great, too! If we have to do that, I’ll have one too. How about instead of love songs (wedding song, etc.), “Let’s Get It On”! LOL Can you imagine the doctor’s face if you played that out loud at the start of the procedure! haha Back to being serious, I think that’s great to make a playlist. 
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@Rosie Girl: Maybe you can make one? Maybe that’ll help your husband to feel like it is more special, too? Maybe your wedding songs? ๐Ÿ™‚

 

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@Rosie Girl: Yep, she has a picture at home. She doesn’t know which one is him, though. That is what is so funny. She said two eggs were bigger so she thinks “he” is one of them. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 476
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@Jenn23: I think I might make a playlist! I like that idea, plus, I am really nervous, so it may help calm me down! I am going to try everything to make my husband feel more comfortable about it and make it more intimate and personal for him. He isn’t that kind of guy, so it really surprised me when he said something!

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@Jenn23: that’s why we picked April, too!!!  We WERE gonna try to have it closer to the kids’ spring break, but then realized it probably wouldn’t work out the best.  Plus, March is usually really cold (I hate the cold) and the months AFTER April is too hot for my Fiance.  I, however, love the heat.  It’s the same reason we didn’t go with October! LOL!

Plus, after I picked the date, my mom told me it was my uncle’s birthday.  And he passed away when I was three.  And, yeah, I really miss my uncle and have fond memories of him, even as a 3 year old.  

 

Oh, oh!  Another good reason for not being pregnant yet!  My Fiance is off the first weekend of May and we’re gonna go get our engagement photos done!!!  CAN NOT WAIT!!!!!!  I’ll get to wear this one itty bitty dress that is REALLY snug that used to be my mom’s.  AND my blue sundress that I looooove and that my Fiance loves.  Now, I don’t have to worry about not fitting in my dresses or anything!  (Or having our friends guess that I’m pregnant before we even tell the families, lol).

Gotta look for all the good reasons and happy reasons to not be pregnant, right? ๐Ÿ˜‰  Though… it would be kinda neat to get the pics taken just after getting pregnant.  Have it be our little secret for a while, lol.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

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@Jenn23: LOL I am sitting here at my desk cracking up thinking about blasting ‘lets get it on’ at the RE next week!  You totally made my day ๐Ÿ™‚

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

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@Rosie Girl: That’s really sweet that your husband is so emotionally invested in all of this.  I think it’s easy for guys to feel detatched, especially when at the RE, all the attention can get focused on us and the guys just give their sample.  And I think that’s really sweet of you as a wife to want to make it as comfortable and personal as possible for him, and for you as a couple.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

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@Rosie Girl:That is a cute idea but honestly it takes less than 10 minutes. So you might have time for a special song!

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Anyone can move in here!  I don’t actually have that insurance….I have an okay plan.  But that plan is an option if my stuff gets more expensive.

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