(Closed) Infertility thread VI

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Thank you!!!!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Mrs. DG: thanks!

Ryna: what makes you think you are? that is so exciting and I hope you really are!!!!!

Jenn23: where are you? are you ok?

Here’s my pic. A little late, but I’m still in the TFW, so it works πŸ™‚

sorry its so blurry! my wine glass is big, and after a couple glasses, things get a little sloppy πŸ˜‰

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Rosie Girl: that for sure is a Wine Glass:)

 

I also really hope Jenn23 is doing okay!!!  

 

I’m still not trying to get my hopes up and not even sure if these could be signs, but my bones in my body have been killing me lately.  They almost feel like when you get growing pains, but worse!!  And I can’t seem to make it through the day without taking a nap at some point!!!  And I’m not a napper unless it is rainy and cold outside with nothing to do, but the last week I can’t seem to stay awake until 10 and then this past weekend I snoozed everyday!!  Maybe I’m starting to catch a cold or something!  Hope everyone is doing okay, I so wasn’t ready to go back to work today.  I wish we could have 3 day work weeks and 4 day weekends:)

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Mrs. DG: hehehehe, THANK YOU!!!!

 @Rosie Girl: thank you!!!! LOVE the pic! lol.  that’s what I call the PERFECT sized wine glass! πŸ˜‰

well, for one I’ve been wanting homemade potato chips for the past couple days (finally got them made yesterday!  and….the almost full quart-ish size ziplock bag is now almost empty…after not even an hour), haven’t TOUCHED the chocolate in the desk drawer (typically my “breakfast” hehehehhe), sore boobs (that go from achy to normal to achy to normal to sore then to normal…. can’t they make up their mind(s)?!?!?), and the past couple nights I haven’t been able to just curl up in bed and fall asleep easily.  

plus, my Fiance is leaning towards “I am”, too, which gives me hope!  

ohhhh….and I ate almost all the gummy bears I had, a small single-serving of chocolate frozen yogurt and still wanted something to snack on Saturday night, lol.  I’ve also been doing lots more sewing than normal (does that count?)

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@stormy9973: JEALOUS!  

I’ve been having THE WORST (yeah, I know, NOT a word :P) time falling asleep at night!  and I only napped Saturday because I was up till 1am then got up around, 10 sunday (kids were nice enough to behave for a change, lol).  I fell asleep snuggled up next to my Fiance on the sofa and we ended up sleeping till noon ish, lol.  

oh, and I woke up at some time this morning for NO REASON at all!!!!  so I snuggled up next to my Fiance and fell asleep half-on his chest, lol!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

Hey guys, sorry I didn’t post until now. I was at the New Jersey shore with my hubby this weekend.

@MissGreen I’m so sorry. πŸ™

Bad news. AF showed so this month is out. I’m very depressed and so scared for the cyst surgery. I keep reading how so many woman with large cysts (mine are both the size of oranges) end up having their ovaries removed during the surgery. If he takes out my left ovary, our only option is IVF. Why couldn’t the cysts have been on my right ovary which is the side I don’t care about since I’m missing my right tube!! Found out at our clinic that IVF costs $15,000. I’m just so devasted, scared and frustrated. I cry so much now and feel such a lack of control over the situation that I’m having trouble concentrating at my job, don’t seem to care about anything much these days. All I think about is having a baby and how I just keep having problem after problem and I just feel like I”ll never have a baby. This whole thing and last year has just consumed so much physical and emotional effort and I’m just so fed up and burnt out. It just plain sucks. πŸ™  I have to call my doctor’s today to tell them AF came and schedule the surgery.

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Jenn – hope you are ok!

 

@stormy9973: & @Zinzerena:  Hoping those are pg symptoms!  Fingers crossed!

 

About halfway through the tww.  It’s actually going by pretty quickly this time, but I’m sure the next week will drag on.  Had spotting and some light cramping the last two days again – similar timing to last month.  Only had this happen one time when trying w/o help, so if I’m not pg this month, I need to ask the doctor why it’s happening – if it’s implantation failure, or something else – and if there’s anything I can do about it.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Jenn23: ugh.  Is there a way to get a second opinion about the ovary BEFORE the surgery?  especially since the doc seems so gungho about doing IVF???  I, personally, would be petrified he’d remove it just so you’d HAVE to do IVF!

I’m so so sorry you’re going through all this!  I was soooo hoping you’d get a BFP instead of AF!  πŸ™  (((((HUGS)))))

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MerryC: eeep!  I’d be totally panicking!  ’cause the last two times that happened to me, I didn’t get pregnant!  Hoping that’s not the case with you, though!!!!! Fingers crossed!!!!!!

and thanks!  I actually was counting back the days trying to figure out when I could test before Friday! LOL!  I am so hopeless!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Jenn23: I’m so very sorry:(  

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

@Jenn23: Oh no!  I’m so sorry sweetie.  You’ve been dealt a crap hand this year, and you are amazing for just getting through it in one piece.  I’ll be praying that the surgery goes smoothly and they don’t have to remove your ovary.  Hope you were able to relax with your hubby this weekend.  Love and hugs.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@Jenn23:  So glad to hear from you.  I am really getting worried!  Well, this isn’t the news we were all hoping for.  I am so sorry.  Have you found a doctor for a second opinion?  I hate how doctors push for IVF and I would hate for you to have such a drastic surgery if money is the motivation for the doctor.  This may seem crazy, but since starting a family is such a life-changing decision, have you thought about moving to a state (like Mass) where infertlity coverage is a law (as long as you live in, work in, and your companys insurance is located in the state).  It doesn’t work for me because my husband’s company is out of state, but eventually I will get my own MA plan and IVF will be a possible option.  I am just thinking that I might consider moving if it means starting a family will be at least $15,000 cheaper.  The job market makes it hard though.  Still something to think about.

 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

Thanks, guys. I did some research last week and my doctor (and his practice-two other RE’s there) are the best within our entire area. I’d have to go to Philly and not sure my husband and I could manage appt’s that far during the work week because it is over an hour drive each way. Anyway, I know my RE seems so pro-IVF, but I read reviews for other RE’s (in Philly for instance) and people made comments that they were similar. So I don’t know that I’d find a doctor that is better in that regard. Two orange-size cysts can be very dangerous (especially since the one is the hemorrhagic, filled with blood) so I know they need to be removed.  I called my RE and left a message for him to call me today. I’m going to ask him if there is any other alternative (birth control pill for example, although I read that doesn’t usually work for large cysts, only small ones) and how dangerous is it to wait a month or two. Also, how dangerous is it to get pregnant with large cysts. He had mentioned them going away if I were to be pregnant, but I just read online so many stories of women who had large cysts during pregnancy which can be very, very dangerous and some had to undergo surgery while pregnant!

The whole situation just plain stinks, but somehow we’ll get through it. Thanks for the support.

 

@heathaah: New Jersey is one of the states that covers IVF thru insurance. And we live only about 75 min away! No, we wouldn’t move, though. We own a house and wouldn’t be able to transfer with our jobs. If we sold our house right now, we’d lose money (due to economy) so that wouldn’t work. I wish all 50 states would cover IVF.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Another IVF note – if we have to go there, we will be applying for the Attain Refund or Multicycle programs.  You have to be approved and meet certain criteria, but the Refund program gives you 3 fresh and 3 frozen cycles, and 70% back if all fails (100% back if you use donor eggs – but we wouldn’t do that).  The multicycle program is I think 2 fresh and 2 frozen at a reduced price.  Basically it costs more if IVF works the first time, but if it takes multiple cycle to work, or doesn’t work, you have some financial cushion.  If IUI doesn’t work, we will probably only consider IVF if we can be approved for the Refund program, just because it would be really hard to shell out $20k for IVF, and then another $20k for adoption, if it came to that.  BUT my clinic says their IVF rates are most influenced by the age of the mother/eggs, and under 35, they have a success rate of about 80%!  But I keep reminding myself that we’ve already fallen on the crap side of those kind of statistics before, so it’s still a tough decision.

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