(Closed) “Informal” Wedding: I need advice!

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
4824 posts
Honey bee

1) Whatever you want! (or so I believe) but if you think you would feel uncomfortable something with less poof in teh skirt or tea length would be nice.

2) Tell them you are sorry, but the size of youre venue is very limiting and you wont be able to invite them to the wedding If they say something to you only, but dont seek them out to tell them this if they have never mentioned it to you yet.

3)I would keep it to 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and maybe aBM if you want. If you want none, that is OK too

Post # 4
7689 posts
Bumble Beekeeper


I only had a Maid/Matron of Honor and my husband had his Bridesmaid or Best Man and one of my brothers did a reading, the other 2 were ushers.  So yeah, you don’t have to have a wedding party.  You just need 2 witnesses to sign your marriage license.  It’s your wedding-wear whatever you like!!!  If you want to stick with a small intimate wedding-spread the word by mouth?  If you are concerned about cost for a big wedding-there are many options to making it work-a backyard bbq, a cake and punch reception, a dessert reception, an appetizer and cocktail reception, some even choose a pot-luck.  As far as the intimate wedding-it need not be informal.  There is a Intimate Wedding site that may make you feel better, and help you decide on just what you want.  Best Wishes. 

Post # 7
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

My sister is having a very small wedding this summer, max there will only be 35 people.  I think small weddings are awesome, and I can’t wait to go to her wedding!  As far as your questions go, I think you should wear the dress you want, no matter the size of the wedding.  It’s YOUR dress, so you should wear what you feel beautiful in.  Also, have a bridal party if you want one; I think this is such a personal decision, and the size of your wedding shouldn’t matter in choosing whether or not to have a bridal party.  It is absolutely fine to not have a bridal party (I didn’t have one), if that’s what you want.

As far as invitations go, I think discretion is your friend.  If you are keeping the guest list small, mum’s the word.  I’ve noticed (with my wedding and with the slew of weddings I’m attending this summer), if you talk about your plans and your wedding with people, they will expect to be invited.  Keep quiet about it, and people either assume they’re not included/invited or a lot of people forget you’re getting married altogether.

Post # 8
398 posts
Helper bee

Our guest list is 28 people.  We are doing a dinner receptions at a cafe.  We will have our own private area.   To help people mingle and talk we are doing a buffet.

I’ve asked for apps to be displayed so people can talk while we are finishing up pictures.

We are not have a bridal party.

I’m wearing a wedding dress, it more modern but still a wedding dress.

As far as people thinking they are invited.  Our response is “The wedding will be small and intitmate, as much as we would love everyone celebrate with us, we have decided to stay with that path.  We are also paying for your own wedding and the budget is tight”  I don’t apologize for not inviting anyone. 

I’m a very personal person, I want to be me on my wedding day.  If I had to share my wedding with a bunch of people, I would not be able to be me, I would stay very shy and quiet. 



Post # 10
646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’d do a sheath dress. I don’t know how you feel about lace, but there are tons of beautiful semi-fitted dresses that would be gorgeous! 🙂

Just tell the friends/family that you’re having a VERY small ceremony (or even call it eloping!) with only your immediate families and wedding party.

Do whatever you want for the bridal party. Have none if you want (the non-guests above won’t know any better), just a Maid/Matron of Honor, or a few BMs. 🙂 You can have them wear whatever they want!

Post # 12
1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Do what you want.  And look at Mrs. Rainbow’s recaps – she had a super-small wedding but it wasn’t “informal” by any means – she really went all out surrounded by only her nearest and dearest, which looked amazing to me.

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