Inherited ring

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
2635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

It’s a pretty ring!  I would agree that it’s a cluster, and that it sits really high.  I would find it rather annoying to wear daily- it’s just so high I would think it would get in the way?  I’m not sure if I would want to change it though, since your dad picked it out.  Maybe I’d get a different ring for my enagement ring, and wear this one as a RHR.

Post # 3
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

It’s so pretty!! But super high!  I would try to get it lowered.  It’ll still be the same ring with the same diamonds, just modified slightly and it will make it look so much better from the side.

Post # 4
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

This really is a cool ring! This is one of those rings that you could keep safely tucked away to pass down or rock as your engagement ring! The only change I might recommend making is if you’re going to wear it daily, you may want to have the diamonds reset in a lower prong to avoid constantly knocking it on stuff, getting it snagged in clothing etc. You could lose a diamond very easily this way. If you choose to do that you should keep the original setting though since it’s a family jewel 😊

Post # 6
2634 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

jsecret87 :  if I were you I would have the prongs removed entirely and the setting soldered right to the band, the ring is beautiful but the height is ridiculous, you could never use your pocket. If you find a reasonable jeweler it shouldn’t cost that much to do as essentially all they’d have to do is cut the setting off the top, cut the prongs flush with the band, solder the setting into place and then clean up around thier work.

Post # 7
5534 posts
Bee Keeper

You need to get an appraisal, not all jewelers do them.  Just use yelp to find someone local with good reviews.  Since you’ll probably want the diamonds lowered anyway, now may be a good time to see what you can do with both rings perhaps? yours and his moms.. perhaps you can create a unique piece that’s your taste 🙂

Post # 8
196 posts
Blushing bee

I’ve seen a similar ring before. A lady I used the work with had a ring like that from her aunt. It was from 1956-1957.

Do not change anything to this ring and keep it as is, It’s unique in it’s own style!

Post # 9
1060 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

You can always go to the jeweler and ask them the cost of changing the setting and what options you have available.

Post # 10
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I decided to use an family ring for my engagement as well. We know it’s most likely from one of my great-great-grandmother’s on Mom’s side. My mom inherited it from her grandmother who inherited from both her and her husband’s side hence the unknown origin. Based on the size and the style we think it’s likely my grandfather’s grandmother and from her second or third marriage. So basically I don’t know whose ring I’m wearing and it’s probably from a marriage with a guy I’m not related to. But to me it represents the independent, free-spirited women on my mom’s side and I think they’d be happy I was wearing it. I’d treasure what story it has (which is awesome) and embrace the mystery factor. I think it’s a really awesome story. 


As far as having work done, I’d be cautious who you use. We took my ring to 3-4 conventional jewelers and they all told me what poor condition it’s in, how it would be a waste of money to repair it, how I could just get a new ring for what I’d spend fixing it, and quoted astronomical numbers to repair it that are more than the ring is worth. I finally found an appraiser with a side business in antique jewelry who happily gave me an approximate age, size and quality of the center stone, and value as well as cleaned it and gave me a work proposal and estimate that day for nothing. And his estimate was less than 1/3 of what I was quoted elsewhere. He also told me the ring was actually in pretty good condition considering it’s age and thought it was great I wanted to use it for my engagement ring. It was a night and day experience Moral of the story being find someone who works with antique jewelry regularly and avoid the places you’d go if you were actually going e-ring shopping. Very often there isn’t even an actual jeweler there, just sales people. 

Post # 11
284 posts
Helper bee

I would say it’s definitely possible to lower it, if that’s what you want to do! As a PP poster said, I would just make sure that you go to someone who has a lot of experience working on antique jewlery. Also, don’t be discouraged if a normal jeweler says they can’t do it, antique jewelry defintiely comes with it’s own set of challenges. My mom has a lot of jewlery from my grandma that she was told was too old/too fragile and she would never be able to wear it. It took a little hunting, but she found a woman who was able to alter/reinforce all her pieces so they are suitable for regular wear. 

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