- 2 years ago
Hello, I have been with my partner for 5 + years, we have a house, dog and have travelled alot together. We have been engaged for one year.
There has always been a feeling that my Future Mother-In-Law does not really like me but we have been able to smile, tolerate and be civil to one another. Over Xmas something happened with my partners family that is high stress (brother doing drugs with a new born baby etc) anyways she was saying he suffers from depresison and my partner and I both said we are concerned it may be drugs so that got her off side. I was also witnessed to something at her home on new years day that really scared and upset me. She asked to speak to me but i was just not emotionally ready and I would have said things that I cant take back. I have since asked her to catch up and left it in her court there has been nothing. I am really struggling with my partners family and how I can continue to have a relationship with people I cant trust and dont particularly like. I also dont feel like my partner has my back to say this is not on so if he did I would be able to see them on a need to see basis. We were looking at a wedding but i said to my partner would you want someone at your wedding who does not include with, does not ask after you, make any attempt to contact you and he said no my response was this is exactly what your family is doing to me. there is so much more to the story but I dont know if I should confront her about it, smile and nod or just keep complete distance.