First off, THANK YOU for all of the amazing responses. Even though I have not responded to each one, I did take the time to read every single post and was blown away by the kindness y’all have demonstrated. 🙂
So here’s what happened. I told my husband last night that having his parents over to my parents’ home is out of the question, and also added that I should have told him from the get-go that it wasn’t okay, but his mom’s abrasiveness just got the best of me when I was feeling emotional.
I told him that either we could nosh on leftovers at our place later that evening, or we could get take-out. I honestly don’t care which one we do, as long as no one is expecting me to make an extra Thanksgiving meal, so I told him he can tell them it’s really their preference.
He admitted that he gets so stressed when they come into town and allowed his anxiety about it to get the best of him, even calling HIMSELF a “total asshole,” so it mad me feel better that he could see that he was being unreasonable. 😉 His reaction in the first place had really surprised me because he is actually very close to my father and has been so good for him as he has gone through his illness, so it makes me feel so much better to know he was just having one of the dumb emotional reactions we all have at times in stressful situations. People make mistakes; it’s all in how they handle fixing them, in my opinion.
He tried to call them last night, but his mom had a work event that the two of them were at, so he didn’t actually get to talk to them and had to table the conversation. He said he would try again tonight just to clear the air and let them know what’s going on.
I know some of you suggested to have my in-laws stay at a hotel, but I actually really don’t mind them sleeping here and would feel kind of weird about that. My parents live very close to where we do, so it’s not like we will have to leave their house early to make time for his parents. I have already decided that DH will be picking them up while I hang out with my parents, and I’ll start warming up the food WHEN they arrive instead of heading home early to do so. If they are not okay with that, then they will have the option in advance of planning a dinner out. 🙂
This way, my parents can relax and my dad can go to sleep as soon as I leave at around 7:30 or 8:00 if he’s feeling like it. Heck, he can chill out in his flannel PJs all day if he wants to. 😉 I feel really good about the situation, and if my in-laws don’t, then oh well. That just proves they are kind of heartless, I think.
Thanks again, ladies! 🙂