Post # 1
I’m curious to know how this went for everyone else…how long before the wedding did your parents and your FI’s parents meet for the first time?
For us, my parents and Father-In-Law met for the first time a half hour before the rehearsal for coffee, the day before we got married. My husband was upset about it, but with everyone travelling it couldn’t be helped. He said that it was weird and that they should have met a lot sooner. I still don’t see what the problem was. Sure, it would have been nice, but they had plenty of time to get to know each other at the rehearsal dinner and reception.
Is this the normal experience, or do most people make sure that the inlaws meet for the first time well in advance of the wedding?
Post # 3
My in-laws will be meeting for the first time at the rehearsal dinner the day before the wedding. I’m a little anxious about it. My parents and my FI’s parents are very different people. The main reason they haven’t met before is because they all live in separate states. I think if we were all closer, they probably would have met prior to the wedding.
Post # 4
Well, my FI’s family and my family live pretty near each other. And we’ll have been together for 6 years by the time we get married, so FI and I have been trying to have in-law get-togethers occasionally to try to make them a little more chummy. 🙂
Post # 5
Ours met a year before the wedding and it still felt like it was a long time coming. We thought they should of met sooner. We’d been together for 6 years at that point, it was a serious relationship so we wanted our families to know each other. Oh well, it all works out!
Post # 6
We just had our parents meet for the first time last month. It went fine, I was more concerned with cooking a successful dinner than how conversation went. Fiance was a little apprehensive, but all in all I thought it was a pretty good day.
Post # 7
Ours met for the first time at our law school graduation in 2008. Since then, we have had Thanksgiving all together and Christmas (in different years). They get along well! I feel very fortunate!
Post # 8
Our families live on different continents, so they will be meeting right before the wedding. We could do a dinner or something, but they speak different languages, and have vastly different personalities (not to mention very different views on alcohol which worries me). So, meeting right before the wedding is good enough for this situation.
Post # 9
Ours have met once – my parents were visiting Ireland for my birthday and we were going to be in the area where FIL’s live so we met them and wound up having dinner at a local pub although we were just going to say ‘HI’.
They met in July of 07 and we didn’t get engaged until May of 09 so it was just a friendly meeting. Fiance (then boyfriend) nearly fainted when I suggested it because he thought it was way too soon but I had gotten to know his parents to the point where I thought it would be nice and casual – neither of our mothers are the type to even joke about ‘when the kids get married’ or any other wink wink nudge nudge comments so it was very easy going and they hardly noticed me or Fiance, they just chatted about all sorts of things.
Hopefully it goes as well when they meet again three days before the wedding….
Post # 10
Ours met at our engagement party (well the day before actually). Mostly due to distance, my parents traveled to the party but the rest of my family has yet to meet his.
Post # 11
My parents are actually meeting FI’s dad/step mom this weekend (about a year before the wedding). I am SUPER nervous. My mom can be very judgmental and FI’s parents, while very nice, are a little odd. Ugh.. can’t wait for brunch to be over!
My parents probably won’t meet FI’s mom/step dad until the week of the wedding because they live in MY and won’t be in Ohio before that.
Post # 12
Fiance & I hosted both of our families for Thanksgiving 2008 which was the first time they all met. It was a blast (though I’m sure everyone expected him to propose that weekend…yeah, he didn’t) and everyone seemed to get along well.
Since then, I think our parents have all seen each other 1 or 2 times. It’s odd because they live about 10 min apart, but since we live out-of-state they have no real reason to get together.
Post # 13
Hopefully they will meet sometime this month.
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
They met after we’d been dating for about a year or two. So that was probably 4 years before we got engaged.
Post # 15
We’ve been together almost 6 years, and I actually don’t remember the first time they all met–but they’ve definitely met, and they’ve met more than once. We’ve all been to dinner together, they’ve been to my parents’ house….and this is all especially impressive since they live in separate states!
Post # 16
For us, it was important that they meet before we got engaged. They met about a month before J proposed, so … nine months ahead of the wedding?
They won’t spend too much time together though – maybe once in a while when J and I are in town (they live in the same city).