- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
My Mil has caused a few problems in this wedding already…I’m sure this is a familiar subject!
!st of all we have been engaged for over 2 1/2 years..long story short about the money issue- We planned on having a 90 guest reception however she had a guest list that was worth about 3k and she aggreed to pay for them. Ok sure fine no problem! well same with the father in law…so now i have a signed contract for dble the wedding costs.
We booked August on 09, she said she would give us the money June of 2010. In feb of 2010 I called to remind her that the payment was due in june and was she still prepared and she says (get this) that she never told me june, and was snotty about financial issues she is having (regaurding her trip to the dominican which was canceled due to some storm) and she would give us the money in feb of 2011. i was upset but what could i do, shes giving us the money 4 months before the wedding when the payment was due in june….whatever
lil extra slap in the face is that her and her husband take expensive vacations every 2 months. (no money from fil either and he is in atlantic city literally every other weekend)
No this brings us to our more recent tiff with her. We didn;t ask her to host our rehersal dinner but she offered. (whatever) he and her husband frequent a local italian restaurant that happens to be their favorite. We knew they wanted to have it there. We don’t like that place at all and my fiance asked to be kept in the loop with the venue and menu selection.
He also expressed to her that we didn’t care for this particular restaurant at all. (i’ts awful) well she went ahead and booked it, chose the menu and put a deposit without ever discussing it with my fiance at all. He’s a little upset, i mean we have had crappy service, gross food there not to mention a roach that crawled across the floor one time and the hair we found in our food a couple times, why would we want to subject our guests to that!?!?!
Now i’m thinking of giving her the money for her deposit and booking our dinner and paying for it ourselves. thanking her anyway but she kinda did all this without us and told US that we didnt really have a CHOICE where it is held…I cannot take this woman. Thoughts??
We are 5 weeks from our wedding and let me fill you in on what has happened since this thread started.
2 days before her contribution was due in feb, she started a HUGE fight with me and my fh. A while back her husband who neither of us care for at all asked if he could take our 2 y/o daughter by themselves all day and didnt invite us, my son, or his wife (my mil)
We just thought it was weird and innapropriate. WHile relaying the message back to my mil she told her husband we said it was unsafe. we never used the word unsafe.
A huge argument insued where she sated she hated me, i was manipulative and not right for him and not only would she not be giving us the money she would not be attending the wedding. We decide to send her and her whole side invites anyway, being the bigger ppl.
She declined after talking it over with her “pator” and her husband and simply cant accept the way we feel about her husband.
2 weeks ago a woman fitting the description of the sound of her voice called into my reception venue and tried to cancel my wedding saying “this is the mother of the bride” no name given. Julie is too upset to call you and so on..
2 days after that- a man called into my apartment building to report my fiance is living with me off the lease. I am now forced to find a new rent and a job…5 weeks before my wedding.
after doing some investigating (im very close with the managment office and the ppl who own my wedding venue) caller id states the call to my venue came from my mil’s workplace and the call to the office came from their home.