Post # 1
So I know there are about 100 of these posts, but I still cant find the help I need. I am aware of a few ways of addressing the inner envelopes, either traditional formal (Mr. & Mrs. Smith) or modern formal (John & Jane Smith) or even casual/personal (Uncle John & Aunt Jane), where applicable.
We have NO clue which route to go for ours. What have you guys seen done most or plan to do for your invites?
Sidebar: We are having a very formal wedding with formal hand-calligraphied invites/envelopes. We def dont mind formal which would lead us to use the Mr & Mrs Smith route, but we also dont want to seem like robots 🙂
Thanks in advance for your help!
Post # 3
I am not having a formal wedding, but I would say to address the inner envelopes either modern formal or casual, depending upon the person. Presumably, your outer envelopes will be formal with the whole “Mr. & Mrs.” thing, so to me, I would prefer to tone it down a little with the inner envelope. It gives out a little more of a personal feel. Especially with family. If you have been calling Aunt Maggie “Aunt Maggie” your whole life, I would continue with that. You want to make family feel that they are a special part of your day!
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
If your wedding is formal, your invitation should be too. It’s your signal to your guest that your wedding is of such-and-such a style, so people could get the wrong impression if you go with first names, but using Mr. and Mrs. should be quite clear.
Post # 5
I think if the outer envelope says “Mr. & Mrs. Smith” then on the inner envelope it sould be “John and Jane Smith” otherwise you are just saying the same thing you did on the outer envelope.
Post # 6
Regardless of the formality of the wedding, inner envelopes always should follow the formal format of Mr. and Mrs. Smith (no first names.) If you are inviting their children, you should use their full names:
Mr. and Mrs. Smith
Miss Emily Jane Smith
Master Edward Thomas Smith
It may SOUND stilted and stuffy, but, ESPECIALLY since you’re having a formal wedding and taking the time to use the inner envelopes, I would encourage you to use the formal protocol. Afterall, when else would you ever have occasion to do this? 🙂
Post # 7
I am also going to use the inner envelopes 🙂 I’m getting thermography invites, which I ordered last week and I should be getting a call from the stationary shop to pick them up soon. I’m going to use what you describle as “modern formal”. My wedding is formal (country club).
In my opinion, the modern formal style not casual but also not stuffy. And the outside envelope already has the Mr and Mrs. Anything you do in calligraphy is going to look beautiful, so there’s nothing to worry about!
P.S.: Personally I’m not a big fan of ampersands so I use the word “and”