Post # 1
The inner evelopes used to be where you specifically put names of the guests that were invited i.e. Adults and older children names, and no younger children names on inner envelope indicated exactly who was invited in the family. Newer invitations are stacked but no inner envelope included – how do you indicate that younger children are not to attend?
Post # 3
You can either add all the names on the outer envelope, or use some sort of a tag tied to a ribbon that is tied around the invite stack. I’m doing the outer envelope – but I only have two families that have young kids invited, and those are my sisters kids.
Post # 4
Your clearest and best choice is to go even more traditional than inner envelopes, and put the specific names of your guests on the invitation itself. Instead of having your cards engraved with the line “request the pleasure of your company” you have them engraved “request the pleasure of the company of” and then leave a blank space where you write in by hand the names of the guests.
Post # 5
We did custom-printed RSVP cards, specifying who was invited. Seems to be working so far. Mind you, it wasn’t a big deal to print each card manually, because we’re only inviting about 50 people (less than 30 parties). Might be a bit more cumbersome with a large wedding.