Post # 1
I was really hoping to avoid using an inner envelope. We’re doing pocketfolds and I really wanted the seal on the outside to be our monogram instead of our guest’s names. How do you handle letting people know about their "and guest" or that their children are not invited if you don’t do an inner envelope? Thanks for your help!
Post # 5
That is what we did. Just addressed the outside names to those invited. Simple. Being someone always confused by all those envelopes, I just didn’t want to spend all the money on Innter AND outer.
Post # 6
We just addressed the outer envelopes and didn’t run into any problems.
For the "and guest" we called our friends and found out the name of the person they were dating and put that on the envelope. For the people who weren’t dating anyone, we just put their name, and called them to let them know they could bring a guest.
For children – people should still know that only people listed are invited. If we were just inviting the parents, we put Mr. and Mrs x, but if the kids were family, we added "& family" to the end of it.
Most of the invitations we’ve recieved have not had inner envelopes. I hope that helps!
Post # 7
Good suggestion about calling and finding out the name of the persont they’re dating or just letting them know they can bring a guest. I guess I am just worried about those invited without a guest or without their kids not getting the point if they’re going all traditional and wouldn’t expect that on the outside of the envelope?
From your experience: do people get the point?
Post # 8
I think it’s a great idea to take the time to call your single guests and ask them if there is someone special you should include on their invitation; that’s what we did. For those who didn’t seem sure at the time, it also gave us an opportunity to tell them that they were welcome to bring a guest should they change their mind.
Another way to let people know how many of them you are expecting is with the RSVP cards. You can have the card printed to say that you have reserved X number of places for them; that should convey that you do or don’t expect the kids to attend.
I’m going to warn you though – some people won’t get it no matter what you do. If you include their kids on the invitation, they’ll call just to make sure they’re welcome. Or even if you don’t, they’ll call to ask if they can bring them anyway. Or they’ll cross out the "2" you’ve written on the RSVP card, and write in "5". Or they’ll just show up with random children or cousins or dates. There is very little way around this. Thankfully the majority of your guests won’t do this, but I would be really surprised if at least one or two don’t,
Post # 10
Of 150 invites sent, only 1 person brought someone not invited – they thought they could swap out my husband’s cousin for the other cousin’s friend. Otherwise we didn’t have any problems skipping the inner envelope thing. We did take the time to find out the names of any girlfriends/boyfriends we didn’t know and then closer to the wedding (when we knew we had space) we circled back to our previously single friends to see if any wanted to bring a date – a few people had started relationships since the guest list was created!