(Closed) Inner envelopes & RSVP cards

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1112 posts
Bumble bee

futuremrscobs:  Yes, you can skip the inner envelope as long as you clearly label who is invited on the outter envelope. 

In my experience, pre-stamped RSVP cards always have a higher response rate. I have many friends who have done both paper and paperless and the ones who do the classic paper with the stamps already on always get a much higher rate of responses. I did the pre-stamped cards and only had to track down 5 people out of 176.

Post # 3
1323 posts
Bumble bee

Yup, you can skip the inner envelope if you want.

RSVP depends on your crowd. Pre-stamped RSVPs will always be the safest option, but online RSVPs can ahve a lot of success if your crowd is tech-savvy. All 5 grandparents between my Fiance and I are on facebook, so we decided to go ahead with the online RSVP. Saved a lot on postage and extra paper.

Post # 4
9926 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Don’t feel alone, when I was shopping for invites my dad informed me I simply must have rice paper to wrap them in inside of the envelop. I had no clue about that.

Post # 5
1604 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would be very careful about using “and family” — different people interpret differently.  Unless you can accept random cousins, boyfriends, aupairs, etc. 

Post # 6
1842 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

You can definitely skip the inner envelopes.  It’s very common to skip them these days.

I’m doing online and phone RSVPs.  Paper with a stamp just seemed super wasteful to me, both in terms of money and environment.  My mom had a hard time with it at first, but she understood when we said we didn’t want to waste all that paper.  

There are a few people in my family who don’t use computers (I know!), so that’s why we included the phone option.  From calling to texting to getting on the website and RSVPing, I think we’ve covered most people’s comfort levels.  If they’re appaled at those options, they can always get out their stationery and write a letter to us too!

There are lots of options – just do what works for you!

Here’s a picture of how I worded mine, on the back of my invitation:

Post # 7
1980 posts
Buzzing bee

Yes, you can ditch the inner envelope if you address the outer envelope accurately.

I’m doing online only RSVPs, and it’s been a week since they went out, and I have about 1/3 of total guest responses. I count that as pretty good! I wanted to save the cash of addt’l paper/stamps and also like the fact that my RSVPs are automatically tallied and put into a spreadsheet.

Do whatever you like best!

Post # 8
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016 - Estates of Sunnybrook - McLean House

futuremrscobs:  We didnt do RSVP cards because things get lost in the mail too often. Especially since a lot of our guests are overseas. So, we have made a wedding website and on the outside of the invitation we asked them ro RSVP to our website. Saves some more paper, and money 😀

Post # 9
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

We did an email/phone number combo.. made an email *****[email protected] etc just for the RSVPs. so it was catchy to be honest.. the email has been kind of a slump.. lol if we had to go back i would prob do a wedding website.. there are a few things that i wish we would have added on the invites.. and i forgot! and now we are trying to do it by word of mouth.. i would say out of 240 people about 50 people have so far RSVPd through email.. rest were social media. phone calls. etc. I do however think that RSVP cards would be a waste as well though a lot of our guests have responded in.. i think i lost my invite.. i think i misplaced my invite.. i have no idea where my invite is but.. so i would save the money on the stampage 

Post # 11
728 posts
Busy bee

Most people don’t do inner envelopes, I’m skipping them too. I just have the main invitation, RSVP card, & RSVP envelope that is pre-stamped & pre-addressed. I wasn’t going to pre-stamp them because I’m giving the option to also RSVP on the website but the bees on here convinced me that pre-stamping them will get a better return rate so I’m doing it now. Haven’t sent them out yet though so can’t comment on if more people RSVP via website the cards. I agree with the PP to make sure you’re addressing the outer envelope to those specifically invited. I’m listing out every single persons name individually so there’s no confusion

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