Post # 1
I’m getting ready to order my wedding invites, and apparently I have no idea how they work! Lol because I read about “inner envelopes” and I didn’t even know they were a thing. It seems kind of redundant to me :/ …. Can I just put on the outer envelope “Mr. Smith & Guest” or “Mr. and Mrs. Smith” or “The Smith Family” or something along those lines and skip the inner envelopes? What have you guys done in regards to inner envelopes?
Originally I was going to send pre-stamped rsvp post cards with the invites, but I feel like alot of people have been doing an email address or a wedding website to gather RSVP’s. In your experience…do the paperless options work? Or is it better to just do a post card like I originally planned?
Thanks bees! 🙂
Post # 2
futuremrscobs: Yes, you can skip the inner envelope as long as you clearly label who is invited on the outter envelope.
In my experience, pre-stamped RSVP cards always have a higher response rate. I have many friends who have done both paper and paperless and the ones who do the classic paper with the stamps already on always get a much higher rate of responses. I did the pre-stamped cards and only had to track down 5 people out of 176.
Post # 3
Yup, you can skip the inner envelope if you want.
RSVP depends on your crowd. Pre-stamped RSVPs will always be the safest option, but online RSVPs can ahve a lot of success if your crowd is tech-savvy. All 5 grandparents between my Fiance and I are on facebook, so we decided to go ahead with the online RSVP. Saved a lot on postage and extra paper.
Post # 4
Don’t feel alone, when I was shopping for invites my dad informed me I simply must have rice paper to wrap them in inside of the envelop. I had no clue about that.
Post # 5
I would be very careful about using “and family” — different people interpret differently. Unless you can accept random cousins, boyfriends, aupairs, etc.
Post # 6
You can definitely skip the inner envelopes. It’s very common to skip them these days.
I’m doing online and phone RSVPs. Paper with a stamp just seemed super wasteful to me, both in terms of money and environment. My mom had a hard time with it at first, but she understood when we said we didn’t want to waste all that paper.
There are a few people in my family who don’t use computers (I know!), so that’s why we included the phone option. From calling to texting to getting on the website and RSVPing, I think we’ve covered most people’s comfort levels. If they’re appaled at those options, they can always get out their stationery and write a letter to us too!
There are lots of options – just do what works for you!
Here’s a picture of how I worded mine, on the back of my invitation:
Post # 7
Yes, you can ditch the inner envelope if you address the outer envelope accurately.
I’m doing online only RSVPs, and it’s been a week since they went out, and I have about 1/3 of total guest responses. I count that as pretty good! I wanted to save the cash of addt’l paper/stamps and also like the fact that my RSVPs are automatically tallied and put into a spreadsheet.
Do whatever you like best!
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2016 - Estates of Sunnybrook - McLean House
futuremrscobs: We didnt do RSVP cards because things get lost in the mail too often. Especially since a lot of our guests are overseas. So, we have made a wedding website and on the outside of the invitation we asked them ro RSVP to our website. Saves some more paper, and money 😀
Post # 9
We did an email/phone number combo.. made an email *****[email protected] etc just for the RSVPs. so it was catchy to be honest.. the email has been kind of a slump.. lol if we had to go back i would prob do a wedding website.. there are a few things that i wish we would have added on the invites.. and i forgot! and now we are trying to do it by word of mouth.. i would say out of 240 people about 50 people have so far RSVPd through email.. rest were social media. phone calls. etc. I do however think that RSVP cards would be a waste as well though a lot of our guests have responded in.. i think i lost my invite.. i think i misplaced my invite.. i have no idea where my invite is but.. so i would save the money on the stampage
Post # 10
You guys have been so helpful!! Thank you! 🙂
Post # 11
Most people don’t do inner envelopes, I’m skipping them too. I just have the main invitation, RSVP card, & RSVP envelope that is pre-stamped & pre-addressed. I wasn’t going to pre-stamp them because I’m giving the option to also RSVP on the website but the bees on here convinced me that pre-stamping them will get a better return rate so I’m doing it now. Haven’t sent them out yet though so can’t comment on if more people RSVP via website the cards. I agree with the PP to make sure you’re addressing the outer envelope to those specifically invited. I’m listing out every single persons name individually so there’s no confusion