Post # 1
Here’s the scenario:
You and your Fiance ask your bridal party to organize a Jack and Jill (not the other way around). They agree to it and say they will take care of organizing it. But there is no mention of what they can budget for. Eventually they ask you for a guest list.
Would you feel comfortable giving them a guest list of over 100 people?
Post # 3
i think you should sit down with them and figure out what they can budget for because either 100 people is fine or it is gonna screw them over because they don’t have the money, so to just avoid all that, you should talk to them!!
Post # 4
I personally would not. But that’s also nearly the size of my entire wedding.
Post # 5
no. i would probably ask them how many people they were thinking… depending on where it is it probably won’t fit that many people.
Post # 6
No. I would ask what the budget allows for.
Post # 7
No way. That’s a massive amount of people. At the very least you should ask them about the budget and what they think they can handle doing.
Post # 8
100 people is a lot. I agree with the others, I would talk to them about it.
Post # 9
How big of a bridal party do you have? Are you OK with something simple, like an outdoor bbq at a park ($50 rental fee or something, everybody in the Bridal Party chips in money for catering–100 people is HUGE)? If so, I’d talk to someone (make somebody in charge…) and let them know it’ll be 100 people and that you are OK with something simple and you’re wary of cost, etc.
If there are like, 4 people on each side, 8 people tackling a 100 person party isn’t a big deal. As long as everybosdy chips in.
But yeah give them a heads up. Otherwise, 100 would be like, ‘HOLY CRAP’ to me. Shoot, our wedding was 120 people, so i’m balking a little at how do you pull off a 100-person shower without it being very expensive. Maybe come up with an idea and float it their way first….i’d be stressing about where to put 100 people
Post # 10
So maybe I’m out of the loop… what is a jack and jill? Is that a co-ed bachelor/ bachelorette party?
Post # 11
no, i would def ask about the budget before telling them a number.
Post # 12
@Ella: It’s a co-ed shower.
Post # 13
Nope. I would ask them flat out how many they can accomodate. I would NOT ask how much cash they have on hand (also some of your family members may choose to contribute).
Open communication is needed here.
Post # 14
No way! That’s more people than are even attending my wedding. I think showers should be kept small anyway. It should be your very closest friends and family. Think about the number of people that you could comfortably invite to a party at someone’s home- that’s as high as your guest list should be.
Post # 15
Are you talking about a co-ed shower, or these “Stag and Doe” parties that are popular in southern Ontario? I seem to recall you’re in toronto? If it’s a stag and doe where your guests will buy tickets to the event, then no, 100 people probably isn’t unreasonable. But if it’s a co-ed shower, then yes, that’s probably too much to ask!
Post # 16
Thank you hotchildinthecity! I felt so out of it there… yeah, 100 for the shower seems pretty big. We had 30 for our shower, and I certainly didn’t feel like I got to talk to anyone for more than 30 seconds here or there!