(Closed) Input needed on this etiquette debate…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i think you should sit down with them and figure out what they can budget for because either 100 people is fine or it is gonna screw them over because they don’t have the money, so to just avoid all that, you should talk to them!!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I personally would not.  But that’s also nearly the size of my entire wedding.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

no. i would probably ask them how many people they were thinking… depending on where it is it probably won’t fit that many people.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

No. I would ask what the budget allows for. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

No way.  That’s a massive amount of people.  At the very least you should ask them about the budget and what they think they can handle doing.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

100 people is  a lot. I agree with the others, I would talk to them about it.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

How big of a bridal party do you have? Are you OK with something simple, like an outdoor bbq at a park ($50 rental fee or something, everybody in the Bridal Party chips in money for catering–100 people is HUGE)? If so, I’d talk to someone (make somebody in charge…) and let them know it’ll be 100 people and that you are OK with something simple and you’re wary of cost, etc.

If there are like, 4 people on each side, 8 people tackling a 100 person party isn’t a big deal. As long as everybosdy chips in.

But yeah give them a heads up. Otherwise, 100 would be like, ‘HOLY CRAP’ to me. Shoot, our wedding was 120 people, so i’m balking a little at how do you pull off a 100-person shower without it being very expensive. Maybe come up with an idea and float it their way first….i’d be stressing about where to put 100 people

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

So maybe I’m out of the loop… what is a jack and jill?  Is that a co-ed bachelor/ bachelorette party?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

no, i would def ask about the budget before telling them a number.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Ella: It’s a co-ed shower.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Nope. I would ask them flat out how many they can accomodate. I would NOT ask how much cash they have on hand (also some of your family members may choose to contribute).

Open communication is needed here.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

No way!  That’s more people than are even attending my wedding.  I think showers should be kept small anyway.  It should be your very closest friends and family.  Think about the number of people that you could comfortably invite to a party at someone’s home- that’s as high as your guest list should be.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Are you talking about a co-ed shower, or these “Stag and Doe” parties that are popular in southern Ontario? I seem to recall you’re in toronto? If it’s a stag and doe where your guests will buy tickets to the event, then no, 100 people probably isn’t unreasonable. But if it’s a co-ed shower, then yes, that’s probably too much to ask!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Thank you hotchildinthecity!  I felt so out of it there… yeah, 100 for the shower seems pretty big.  We had 30 for our shower, and I certainly didn’t feel like I got to talk to anyone for more than 30 seconds here or there! 

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