Post # 1
Our wedding is in november and I’m fine with 99% of my body at a size 16, but my arms are horendous. I have bat wings that could put me into flight and I’m wearing a strapless dress.
Does anyone have pointers on how to either get over this (like, were you insecure and then got all of your wedding pictures back and fell madly in love with all of them instead of disecting yourself in them…my fear) or tips on how to best “hide” them even though I’ll be wearing strapless (what poses might work best, or how to carry my arms so they don’t look like the broad side of a barn?
Post # 3
I have a similar problem with my arms because of my (very large)biceps. In photos keep your arms away from your body. The best way I have found to bias the camera is to put your hands on your hips (or hold your bouquet) and pull your elbows back.
Post # 4
I wore a sheer bolero for that exact reason. It didn’t cover them much but it made me feel better about it. And also I tried not to have my arms right against my body during pictures. Elbows out! Lol
Post # 5
@adria1211: this may help! take the front part of your arm and kind of push it behind your underarms. it might help to try it b/c reading it might not make much sense. i also found that side pics really show how big arms really are. if all fails, show those big arms and enjoy your day!!!!!!!!!!! i am sure you are going to be beautiful, arms and all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 6
Do some poses with your hand on your hip. I am a little chubby, hence the name and it is more flattering for your arm to be up and a little flexed. Also, since you’re not getting married until November, you have time to firm up your arms. Seriously, get a Shake Weight. They look stupid, and you feel even stupider doing the exercise but IT WORKS. I can still keep my curves which i love but still look tone. Do some practice poses in the mirror and see how you are most comfortable. A cute bolero that goes with your dress always looks good in case you get a little self conscious. The real trick is to be super self-confident!! When you look happy, glowing, and like you own your dress, no one will care what your arms are like.
Post # 7
I’m worrying about the same thing, too! What I plan to do is to have a lace top and wear it underneath my dress, so that you only see the top part of the lace top, thus covering my arms!
Post # 8
Agreed- elbows out is key to not making arms look flabby. I kind of have many shoulders so for pictures I try to force them down a bit so people don’t ask me what # i am on the woman’s rugby team. It seems to also force my arms to appear more muscular too, just a thought! It might work! Practice in a mirror till you’re comfortable with yourself =)
Post # 9
Wow! We are both date twins and insecurity twins. I, too, am worried about showing off my large upper arms in my strapless dress.
I started working out and focusing on strength training my upper body, especially. It’s been about a month, and there is already a difference – firmness has replaced some of the flabby. I don’t expect a miracle, but even a small difference has given me some hope that I will look ok. You have enough time that just doing free weight and pushups every other day and some regular cardio could make you look and feel better.
In any case, my Fi and family say that I look good and worry too much about my arms. I’m sure that both you and I are harder on ourselves than others are. Oh, and if all else fails, I put my hand on my hip during photos. 🙂
Post # 10
every picture I ever take I have “elbows out” !! always, always! It helps a lot
Post # 11
Don’t forget the Oprah makeup tip. You can apply bronzer to the backs of your arms to make them appear smaller 🙂
Post # 12
I am in the same boat. I looked at boleros and have gone back and forth, on what to do. Once I found my dress, which is a v-neck with straps, I decided the best thing to do would be to add some elbow length flutter sleeves to the straps from with an opaque organza, and some rhinestone beading around the edging for a little extra bling, and to tie it into the rest of my dress which has rhinestone detailing. I don’t have the dress yet. but it will look something like this when its done (this is not my actual dress-but the inspiration for it)
Post # 13
You are not alone! My wedding is in my and all I keep doing is looking at my arms… 🙁 – Thanks for posting this – I will be trying some of the tips!
Post # 14
You are all so kind for the replies (I’m new to weddingbee, but decided to jump in today).
Elbows will be out, shoulders will be back, and I will have a great time regardless! Besides, I’m sure the photographer can crop out the flab if I ask 🙂
Post # 15
@adria1211: Oh, honey, I feel your pain! I, too, have large arms and have ALWAYS been self-conscious about them. I was worried about how I’d look in a strapless wedding gown as well and wondered how pics would turn out. Leading up to the big day, I used Jilian Michael’s 30 Day Shred, which includes weight training and cardio. I also used the Shake Weight during commercials and believe it or not, it worked! Of course, my arms were still large, but they firmed up using that device! In terms of poses, I would say try to avoid side/profile photos, as this shows the whole width of your arms. Also, pull your arms back and tight to your body. The more you lift them or hold them away from your body, the more they sag. Lastly, you might want to consider wearing a veil that can “cover” your arms up a bit. Hope this helps some!
Post # 16
I’d like to give my two cents – you have plenty of time to get in a pilates class – just two to three times a week and you will notice a HUGE difference! I used to have zero upper body strength and now I can do tonnes of push ups and stuff.
Please remember that people are going to be there to see you and your beloved get married, they aren’t there to judge you….
(I always think a nice glass of champagne helps me get over any insecurities 🙂 )