Insecure/New Relationship – HELP!!!!!

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Daisy_Mae :  A thousand times, this! 

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

There’s nothing wrong with the dog arrangement if boundaries are respected. They both love their dog and want to be part of its life. What’s wrong with that? What should the OP do? Tell her boyfriend he needs to get rid of his dog or forbid his ex to see the dog? Pretty unreasonable.

Anyway, OP, I agree that you should hang back, not say anything about his exes “likes” and keep getting to know your guy. By all means, keep your eyes open, but don’t succomb to insecurities that are only going to make your life needlessly difficult. An ex liking his picture is no big deal. My ex husband used to like lots of my FB pictures after my Fiance and I got together. He also occassionally texts me to this day. There is nothing inappropriate going on, so it’s really none of my FI’s concern and he’s never mentioned it (I am completely open and transparent about our occassional contact). What I would object to in terms of exes is if he was liking scantily clad pictures of them or posting suggestive comments about their appearance. In that case, I would mention it to him once, listen to his explanation and reaction, and if it wasn’t to my liking, throw in the towel on that particular relationship.

 

Post # 33
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Busy bee

You need to work on letting go of this paranoia before it destroys the relatioship. 

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

I have to laugh at all the comments about the “dog custody.” My ex-husband had an order added to our divorce decree that we would split custody of our dog, which we did until he decided it would be better for everyone if I just kept him full-time. One of my best friends and her husband have a week-on/week-off custody schedule for their two dogs. It’s not rare or strange.

Others have alread stated that your paranoia surrounding his Instagram behavior is problematic, so I won’t repeat what’s already been said.

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