- 7 years ago
You have all offered me a wealth of knowlege with my new dating life and I am looking for some advice on a particular situation and overall really.
I have been seeing a guy called Ryan for three weeks.
Our first date was on a Tuesday night. Went to dinner, and back to his place to watch a movie.
Our next date was the Saturday night. We went to dinner, back to his place and we were intimate (this was really fast for me, but felt right).
Our next date was the Monday. I went over to his house after dinner with friends, again we were intimate.
I went away on vacation. Saw him last night which was nearly two weeks from our last date. We went to dinner, back to his place. Although I REALLY wanted to we couldn’t be intimate as its my time of the month but we kissed lots and did some other stuff.
When we are together its really fun, we laugh a lot and he makes me feel so beautiful and special. He isn’t the kind of guy that I hear from everyday but it still is really early. The thing is though, everytime I go home I have this fear that I will never hear from him again.. I don’t know why I worry so much but I mull over everything he has said to try and decipher if he is subtly breaking it off.
For instance, last night after we were kissing/cuddling for a few hours he started drifting off to sleep. I asked him if he was falling asleep and he said no. He started drifting off to sleep again so i said I was going to go home. He got up, got dressed and walked me to my car. He said he was tired because he was up at 5am and worked that day (he is a pilot). I said that he didnt have to walk me to my car and he said “I know I don’t have to”. We kissed goobye at my car and I drove home… from this I feel like he doesn’t want to see me again? Is that crazy?
It’s like until we have the next date set up I feel insecure and crazy and freaked out, and then when I know when I am seeing him next i’m cool.. even if I don’t hear from him for a few days.
What should I do to handle this? Can someone talk me off my ledge? I really like this guy and am playing it really cool when it comes to contacting him and all that but I hate stressing out.