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posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Ugh! This is definitely a questionable situation. I wouldn’t make a big deal about it though… haven’t you ever google stalked or checked out someone’s profile from your past? I do it all the time πŸ™‚ haha

If you want to spend your life with him, then trust in him! If he is also thinking about marriage, then (as nutso as this may sound) you’re basically on trial. Guys start to look at their gfs in many different ways… like will she be a good mother, a solid partner, etc. If he thinks you don’t trust him before you get engaged & married… he may start to think that this trust issue will only get worse after marriage.

Good luck! I hope you work it out πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

From the way you tell it, it sounds very much like he’s just someone who she’s confiding in.  He was very honest with you about it and not acting like he’s hiding something.  Also, if he’s someone she worked with, that means he’s someone who has no ties to her husband.  Sounds like she’s looking to confide, but only in people who don’t know him as well. 

Post # 7
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3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@Helstrong: I’m glad I made you feel better!

I’m going to be completely honest here since you seem so open to advice. I think its essential that you learn to let go of these trust issues, especially if he hasn’t cheated or every given you a reason not to trust him. It’s not uncommon for men to leave their partners if they are being accused of being unfaithful! Guys get tired of constantly having to reassure a woman that he loves her & wants to be with her… If he didn’t want to be with you he would have left already!

Be secure in your relationship & have confidence in yourself! A confident woman is sexy, an insecure one is not! Keep showing him what a great catch you are & he’ll never look elsewhere πŸ™‚  (hugs)

Post # 9
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5959 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah, that sounds like a weird situation.  I think that you’ve handled it well, but I’d talk to him more.  I’d consider talking to her as well and let her know it’s weirding you out that she keeps confiding in your boyfriend.

Post # 10
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555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@ recessionista those words about trust issues ring true with a lot of us for sure.  I know from time to time I struggle with trusting my Fiance but it’s totally my own hangups and nothing he’s done. I try to keep it to myself and not let him know how insecure I feel sometimes but you’re advice about the reasons to let go of the trust issues are really important so thanks!

Post # 10
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555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@ recessionista those words about trust issues ring true with a lot of us for sure.  I know from time to time I struggle with trusting my Fiance but it’s totally my own hangups and nothing he’s done. I try to keep it to myself and not let him know how insecure I feel sometimes but you’re advice about the reasons to let go of the trust issues are really important so thanks!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My guess is that he was looking at her wedding photos because she’d just told him she had cheated on her husband….kind of a rubberneck thing. I know that’s what I’D do if someone told me that.

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