Inspired by a post, was your proposal a surprise?

posted 7 months ago in Beehive
  • poll: Did you know a proposal was coming?
    It was a complete surprise! : (29 votes)
    43 %
    I knew some details, but not so many that I wasn’t “shocked”. : (14 votes)
    21 %
    Surprise, please. We picked everything together but the actual words of my FI’s proposal. : (14 votes)
    21 %
    Other : (11 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 2
    1065 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

    I was completely surprised, it wouldn’t even pass my mind. My husband proposed to me 1 month into our relationship and I said yes. 🙂 

    Post # 3
    1505 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

    It wasn’t a complete surprise because I had guessed a few aspects of it (I figured out what day it was happening).  But I had no idea what the ring looked like, where he would do it or when, etc.

    Post # 4
    580 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2020 - Clarksville, VA

    I had no idea he had the ring. We had a rough timeline and he proposed about three months sooner than expected. I was completely caught off guard. 

    Post # 5
    270 posts
    Helper bee

    I was completely surprised – he bought a ring I had sent him months prior, but I wasn’t expecting a proposal for another 4-6 months for a number of reasons. I had a few moments in the hours leading up to it that something was going on, but that was it.

    Post # 6
    478 posts
    Helper bee

    We had planned everything out before he actually proposed, including a lot of financial stuff since we are older, so no, no surprise.  He even proposed without a ring so we could pick it out together and I could get exactly what I wanted.  He proposed while we were having breakfast on the deck at his mom’s summer cottage, right after we had seen an eagle in the treetops, so I wasn’t expecting it in that moment, but it was lovely.  I did not need a “surprise!” nor a big, dramatic proposal with fireworks and fanfare for it to be special. 

    Post # 7
    3174 posts
    Sugar bee

    I basically knew about everything besides the exact day he was going to ask me…and since we had planned it together, he didn’t even ask me to marry him, he said “do you want to wear the ring?”  We aren’t hopeless romantics.  

    Post # 8
    9320 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i knew the when but not the how.

    Post # 9
    47 posts

    It was a surprise. He showed me a few rings and asked which one I liked the most, I told him and he just smiled. About 2 months later, on Christmas eve he proposed. 

    I was shocked because we had a trip planned for the day after Christmas which he was very excited about. And I thought that he was planning on asking then. 

    Post # 10
    189 posts
    Blushing bee

    Sort of? I posted the story previously but:

    -He planned a surprise vacation (TOTAL surprise, including packing, being whisked off to the airport, etc)

    -Once I found out about the vacation I highly suspected a proposal (also our anniversary)

    -We’d spoken about rings and I’d sent him some pics, but he’d made many comments about me picking out my own ring. So when he proposed with an actual ring, I was shocked lol. Also didn’t fit well so only worn for a few hours. 

    So the actual act of him getting down on 1 knee was NOT a surprise, but the vacation & ring absolutely were. But c’mon, you can’t whisk me away on our anniversary and have me not suspect a proposal is coming haha. 

    Post # 11
    12616 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I was suspicious just before, but I’d call it a classic surprise proposal. I had nothing to do with ring selection or shopping and we had never discussed “timelines,” but we were obviously on the same page by then. 

    Post # 12
    1113 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

    HE was surprised! 🙂 We hadn’t had any formal discussions about timelines, but we had talked openly about being married, when we have kids, etc. So, when the time was right and I knew, I surprised him with an engraved keychain. He answered with “Of course I’ll marry you, I’ve just never thought of what to say.”



    Post # 13
    9888 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Kind of. I knew he had the ring and we’d been together 7 years so I knew a proposal was coming but for a few reasons I absolutely did not expect him to propose the weekend that he did so I was actually very surprised by the timing.

    Post # 14
    401 posts
    Helper bee

    It was a surprise but I wasn’t surprised if that makes sense? I had no hand in planning it at all… I was just glad he finally asked after 2.5 years… was impatient. I knew it had to be soon or he would be in trouble… because he said before the end of the year.

    Copy and Paste from other post. It was pretty much a few days from Christmas and we planned to grill our dinner that night. It was extremely cold too. We decided to have a few drinks in the living room before firing up the grill.

    My now husband was playing with the dogs and put his back out so bad he couldn’t get up from the floor. He was laying there. Almost howling in pain. I kept saying lets just cook dinner inside it is too cold anyways. We could just take it easy and get his back in order. He said no 50 times probably and was persistent. I didn’t think anything of it other than he is being ridiculous because he is only going to make it worse.

    We go outside, me wearing probably 5 coats, mittens, a hat of some kind, and drinking some kind of booze with our three dogs. He is like clearly dying in pain too so I am still like… we don’t have to do this, dude. 

    Anyways he turns on a song we love and I turn around for a second to do something on the porch. Probably put my drink down. Turn back around and he is on his knee and proposed. In TONS of pain… but he did it. LOL.

    Great thing is our security camera caught it. Kinda cool. Christmas lights going and music on. Cheesy but perfect for us. But also shows how stubborn he is about self care…

    Post # 15
    22 posts
    • Wedding: July 2020

    Complete surprise. I wasn’t expecting a proposal for over a year from when he did propose. He asked me what kind of rings I liked when we were talking about someone else’s ring once, but I later learned he had already purchased the ring at that point, haha. 

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