(Closed) Insulting Regift

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would send a thank you note and move on.  You’re not in it for the gift, right?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ouch. It’s definitely not just you – that’s bizarre! I think it’s telling that they didn’t even mention the fact that they were leaving it. They just sort of dumped this random package with no note or wrapping in your house and then told you after… who does that?

Here in NYC, if we see something like that we are supposed to call 911. You should call the etiquette police.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’ll trade you for some 1970’s Fruit Festival Corningware

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

WEIRD.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

That is strange.  You’d think is they were re-gifting it, that they would have at least wrapped it.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

That is very weird! Can you save it and give it away as a white elephant gift?  (make sure they are not at the party or will see it in that person’s house!)

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel

I would agree that that’s a little thoughtless – the manner in which the gift was given (or left there) would bother me more than the actual gift itself.  I’d be a little put off as well.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Id send a thank you note but that is odd.  Why would they not actually give it to you and leave it on your dresser with no note?  Maybe they were embarassed of it?  Thats just odd…I completely understand what you mean though.  I always worry when I buy gifts about not spending enough or spending too much.  Its nice our wedding was before all our friends so we can kinda match what they got us and not have to worry about it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

the presentation is the strangest thing!  If it was presented that way, was it really even worth gifting?  I mean to not hand it to you, wrap it, or acknowledge it?  I would write a thank you note (though probably fairly impersonal) and move on!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Ugh.  I’m annoyed for you! 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ugh, how thoughtless. They could have at least wrapped it up for you and pretended to care. That’s really strange, but writing a thank-you is definitely the classy way to go, so good for you!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

tell what it is please!!!!

Post # 16
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Helper bee

I say save it & give it to one of them as a birthday gift… like what they did w/ the breadmaker in "Old School"…

Totally kidding! 

That’s really bizarre, but my thought is that they were probably just so caught up w/ all their wedding & after wedding stuff that they didn’t have time to get you something?  Maybe just give them a pass this time since you guys are in the same shoes & know how hectic things get… but if something else weird comes up – follow my first suggestions (kidding again!  hehe) 

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