Post # 1
Hi Hive! OK, this is more of a vent, and I know that some of you will disagree, but I have to say that I’m somewhat insulted by a "wedding gift" my husband and I just received. This other couple is in a group of people we hang out with. She and her husband both have high-paying jobs and got married about six months before us. When they got married, we got them some items off their registry, worth about $125. They didn’t get us a wedding gift for about seven months after our wedding. We recently had a party, and after the party, we found this… object…. on our dresser in our bedroom. It was totally random. Not something we’d registered for, asked for, or ever expressed an interest in. No card, no wrapping. In fact, at first I just thought someone had left the object at the party. I had no idea it was a gift. Two days later, she texts me, "by the way, that object is your wedding present." I looked it up on the internet and it’s worth about $30, though frankly I wouldn’t buy it for $10.
Is it me or is that bizarre?
At the very least, it’s an unthoughtful gift given in a careless manner. And my strong suspicion is that it’s simply a regift.
It just bothers me that we took the time and money to buy them something they would want (along with a heartfelt card) and they opt to regift something cheap and random with no card and no thought whatsoever.
OK rant over. I honestly do not even care about the gift — I don’t want things or money. I just feel hurt that they were so thoughtless. It would have been better if they’d given us nothing.
Post # 3
I would send a thank you note and move on. You’re not in it for the gift, right?
Post # 4
Ouch. It’s definitely not just you – that’s bizarre! I think it’s telling that they didn’t even mention the fact that they were leaving it. They just sort of dumped this random package with no note or wrapping in your house and then told you after… who does that?
Here in NYC, if we see something like that we are supposed to call 911. You should call the etiquette police.
Post # 5
I’ll trade you for some 1970’s Fruit Festival Corningware
Post # 7
That is strange. You’d think is they were re-gifting it, that they would have at least wrapped it.
Post # 8
That is very weird! Can you save it and give it away as a white elephant gift? (make sure they are not at the party or will see it in that person’s house!)
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel
I would agree that that’s a little thoughtless – the manner in which the gift was given (or left there) would bother me more than the actual gift itself. I’d be a little put off as well.
Post # 10
Id send a thank you note but that is odd. Why would they not actually give it to you and leave it on your dresser with no note? Maybe they were embarassed of it? Thats just odd…I completely understand what you mean though. I always worry when I buy gifts about not spending enough or spending too much. Its nice our wedding was before all our friends so we can kinda match what they got us and not have to worry about it.
Post # 11
the presentation is the strangest thing! If it was presented that way, was it really even worth gifting? I mean to not hand it to you, wrap it, or acknowledge it? I would write a thank you note (though probably fairly impersonal) and move on!
Post # 12
Thanks all. I will definitely write a thank you note, mostly because I believe you always thank people for gifts.
And yes, it’s the presentation that really bothers me, not the gift itself. I received modest handmade (but thoughtful!) gifts that were wonderful. It’s the slapdash, thoughtless way they gave it to us that most mystifies me…
Post # 13
Ugh. I’m annoyed for you!
Post # 14
Ugh, how thoughtless. They could have at least wrapped it up for you and pretended to care. That’s really strange, but writing a thank-you is definitely the classy way to go, so good for you!
Post # 15
tell what it is please!!!!
Post # 16
I say save it & give it to one of them as a birthday gift… like what they did w/ the breadmaker in "Old School"…
That’s really bizarre, but my thought is that they were probably just so caught up w/ all their wedding & after wedding stuff that they didn’t have time to get you something? Maybe just give them a pass this time since you guys are in the same shoes & know how hectic things get… but if something else weird comes up – follow my first suggestions (kidding again! hehe)