"Intention to Elope" announcements

posted 2 years ago in Elopement
Post # 76
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Busy bee

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lunaluna :  I think this is fine as long as it’s not printed offically on anything. Just call people and ask like your friend did for the something borrowed :). Make it personal and informal. Whoever can and wants to contribute will.

Post # 78
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Newbee

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lunaluna :  as an Aussie – I think it is fine. 
Letting people know you are eloping is also fine as it prevents their feelings from getting hurt – why wasn’t I invited to the ceremony?!? A private ceremony that I can’t go to ??!!

Maybe we are similar age and background but I feel letting people know you are eloping is fine, I see private ceremony as far more offensive. To me the differences are
We specifically decided to exclude you from this event we paid for = private ceremony.
We cant afford a full on big wedding ceremony = elopment. 

It is your wedding, do it your way. No matter what you do you will get complaints so do what your gut tells you is right for you, reflects you and honours your relationship. Trust me, no matter what you do you wont please everybody so go with what it true to yourself.

As you can see, everyone has a different oppinion. I would like a notice if a friend eloped. It is much better to know in advance than find out on facebook after photos are posted and never know why you weren’t invited. Eloping prevents people from questioning your relationship with the couple as well – oh they eloped, its not that I am their least favourite cousin/friend etc etc they didnt invite anyone.

I invited everyone I knew the address for to my wedding, because I knew no one would come so they felt loved and I could still have a small wedding like I wanted.

Would you be upset if you actually included details for people to join in your elopment and they did come – knowing it was an elopment and no party afterwards? Do you want it as only 2 people and yourselves?

Post # 80
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Newbee

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lunaluna :  My sister didn’t want any extras and they didn’t really tell anyone about it. But they had the party when they got back and sent the invites out for that. I think people really only want to go to the party anyway lol. Some people were annoyed that the ceremony had already happened because they didn’t realise it. So – no matter what you do, you can’t please everyone but as long as your doing what is right for you.
I don’t think it is rude to put ceremony – eloping christmas day (people will be busy, as you say) reception/after party — details. I personally have no problems with getting a card in the mail saying im not invited to something lol. I am so over going to things sometimes. It would be nice if we got a “hey it is xxx 1st birthday – just letting you know, don’t worry about gifts or coming” I’d be like thank god, also why can’t I go lol.

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