(Closed) Interacial wedding

posted 7 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It reaaaaally depends how observant the individual guests are.

Orthodox Jews probably wouldn’t eat at your wedding because the ovens/pans had at some time touched non-kosher food, rendering it all non-kosher. Basically, you’d need a kosher caterer for them to eat.

People like me who keep kosher by not mixing meat/milk, avoiding shellfish/pork, only eating meat butchered kosher-ly, would be fine for the most part–worst case scenario they’d get the vegetarian meal because they worry about the meat preparation.  Most Jews in America though (even the ones who consider themselves conservative) are way less observant and so they’d end up eating the pork lol.

I think it’s sweet you’re even worrying about this!  Just ask Fiance whether his family is super observant or not (hint hint: if they eat out at regular restaurants, they will probably be fine with pork being there as long as it’s not on their plate).

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I guess it would also depend on whether or not you’re having a Jewish wedding.

My fiancé is Korean but were having a pretty traditional Jewish wedding. So were not doing any pork or shellfish for dinner. We’re undecided about having shellfish during cocktail hour. We might do that.

But if you’re not really having a Jewish wedding, then sure, why not?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

totally depends on your guests.  do a lot of them keep kosher?

Post # 6
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Newbee

It definitely depends on if the guests are kosher. HOWEVER, myself being from an incredibly reform/non-religious Jewish family, we still don’t really eat pork. (I am actually a vegetarian ) but the rest of my family stays away from pork for the most part. It’s kind of just a cultural thing in certain families. I would definitely check to make sure. It is kind of hard to make generalizations about entire cultural groups when discussing food (such as saying “Chinese people really like roast pork”… well maybe some do but not all of them.)

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Shlieka:  Any food brought in by a kosher caterer and using new/kosher plates would be totally acceptable to eat, even if pork is in the room (you’d just want to make sure people know this so they will eat).

I’m not sure you even have to go that far though if it will really only affect 1 or 2 people (like vegetarians, people who keep kosher know going in that they have to adjust and will seek out someone to ask questions and make sure they prepare).  I’d ask around your friends to see what they are comfortable with–for example, I’d have no issue at your wedding, I’d just order the vegetarian meal.  If it’s just a few people, a kosher caterer could bring in a few prepackaged meals.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think as opposed to bringing in the pork seperatly like you mentioned, your guests who keep kosher would be more comfortable if their meals were brought in seperatly. Also, as others mentioned, it depends on if the wedding is a Jewish ceremony or not. It also depends on your officiant and their level of comfort.  Remember though, it’s your wedding, so do what makes you happy!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

I think the suggestion of bring separate pre-packaged meals for kosher/halal friends is a good idea. You are having a Chinese wedding, do not worry about your guests, many would make do with a vegetarian option.

I have observant Jewish friends and we go out to all kinds of different restaurants, never a problem for them. As you well know, a huge number of Jews go to Chinese restaurants on Christmas day.

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