(Closed) Interesting approach to paing for a wedding.

posted 10 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

That is just too tacky for words. I’m sorry. Why in the world can’t people just have the wedding they can afford?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2007

I agree with Kate that this is tacky, but unfortunately, this isn’t the first time I’ve heard of such a thing!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Ugh.  Maybe the bride could have the phone numbers of local businesses embroidered on garters to throw as well.  Or stamped on her train.  Or embossed on the favors.  Why not just auction off the seats at the reception, as if it was a charity dinner?

I think that any business that falls for this is pretty naive.  I absolutely would not be picking up coupons or business cards at a wedding.  In fact if I was hit with a barrage of advertising the minute I came in the door, I would absolutely be less likely to patronize those businesses.  I would guess I would also be less likely to socialize with the couple any time in the future.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Nooooo! When did weddings stop being about dedicating your lives to each other in love and start being about a huge display!?!? I usually try to reserve judgement but seriously…yuck!

I have to admit that we spent a fair amount on our wedding but we were sure to save as much as we could for two years before the big day and did not go one penny into debt as a result. 

I would have been just as happy getting married ina courthouse, on a hilltop, or in my backyard if that was what the budget allowed. After all, it’s about the couple…not advertisements!!!

I can’t even tell you how distasteful I find this. I hope they reconsider this route before their wedding. Please!!!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

The only sponsor I would allow is Doritos.  If it’s good enough for Stephen Colbert, it’s good enough for me.  Hail to the Cheese!

Post # 8
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Newbee

tberry are you in san francisco or are you in ohio? do you know this couple? did they seriously cold call/e-mail random businesses. that takes guts. so i looked at their website and everything on the site shows san francisco, but there wedding is in ohio. as a bride actually getting married in san francisco, i can say that it is ridiculous what it cost (as we all know it is everywhere) but i would be  ashamed to do this.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I really like Doritos – but I prefer the nacho flavor, and I couldn’t have them at my wedding because I’d end up with orange all over my dress!

I didn’t know a town of 40,000 could have an "inner city."  That was seriously the thought that went through my mind as I read that.

This post makes me feel spoiled.  I’ve always known my parents would pay for my wedding (and they are paying A LOT) – I don’t know how to judge someone who is in really the complete opposite situation as the one I’m in.  In the end, if the bride and groom and the advertisers are happy – I guess it is win-win.  There are so many tacky things about weddings, it is easy to fall down the slippery slope of tackiness – which we’ve confirmed on here during many a money dance/garter/registry-on-the-invitation post is really quite subjective.

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

San Fran is where they are going for their honeymoon according to their website, hence all the San Fran stuff

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yuck. I can’t handle it when marketing is pushed in my face in regular situations, let alone a wedding. Bottom line is that they shouldn’t be having a $10k wedding if they can’t afford it on its own. And to use the "works with urban kids" line is so tacky, because it’s an effort to gain empathy for the couple and the fact that they don’t have the cash for a 10,000 dollar wedding.

The other thing that bugs me is the proliferation of the "average wedding costs $15,000 to $20,000" myth. The wedding industry itself publishes these number, polling brides-to-be who read bridal magazines, visit bridal websites, and choose to take part in these surveys. Therefore, they don’t count people who have budget weddings, backyard weddings, or go to a justice of the peace- therefore, the true average is not really measured. They’re averaging only people who are really into planning a wedding. Works great for the industry, though, because people think it’s normal to spend a lot.

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Ok, after reading their website I think I might actually hate them. LOL It’s beyond tacky. They want people to pay for their wedding, come to the ceremony, but not the reception and then give them a honeymoon. OMG, I almost let a note on their guest book, but what could would that do. They’d just take it down. OMG, how do people live with themselves.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Kate!

I was thinking the exact same things! I couldn’t help but go to their website and saw so many additional awful things! They want as many people to come to their ceremony as possible and I am sure they are hoping they ALL bring gifts. And then only a few people are coming to the reception, the part they actually pay for. 

And yes, no gifts! They just want portions of their honeymoon paid for so basically, they only want cash. I think this can be an ok option in addition to other registries, not as the only registry. 

They need to stop discussing how they work with inner city kids and begging for money. Just go to the courthouse already!! 

Side note: What is my deal that this makes me SO angry!?! Seriously…

Post # 14
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Newbee

Jesus Christ, I’m not against the idea of a honeymoon registry but theirs is appalling. $350 for a limo, $900 in taxi money, $625 for breakfast in bed. I am in shock.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Ex~ I was shocked by the amounts as well. I’ve spent a week in San Fran and didn’t come close to spending that much on taxis, never had a limo, etc. and we were just fine. I don’t get it. Some people have no clue. 

 

MrsSpitzer~ Don’t worry, it makes me mad as well. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I remember reading in Bride magazine a few years ago a couple that had their whole wedding sponsored – it was a lot of work but they said it was well worth it.

I coulnd’t do it, but I thinkthat everyone calling it tacky or worse could have found a different way to word things. Though you did ask for an honest opinion. I think that leaving in your number and info was a way for you to promote on here though and while clever, defeats the purpose of this board.  

I do wish you luck and hope to hear about the outcome. 

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