(Closed) Interesting approach to paing for a wedding.

posted 11 years ago in Money
Post # 47
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124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

Oh wow — Fiance and were just joking about this the other day, saying we could get sponsors to pay for it and put ‘Netflix presents…’ at the top of the invitation and I could have another sponsor’s name across my ass in sequins or something so everyone would see it when I walked down the aisle to yet another sponsor’s jingle. I had no idea people actually do get sponsors!! For what it’s worth, tberry, your intended purpose was met with me. I definitely find this amusing!!

Post # 48
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4 posts
Wannabee

Should I?  Or Shouldn’t I?  I think I will…

Post # 49
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Wannabee

Hello Everyone!!

This is Scott Bland.  First, I want to say… I have enjoyed reading everyone’s postings.  I love diversity and opinions-they are great!!What is surprising is that not ONE person on this board actually knows us, yet find a means to think it okay to remark and call us all kinds of words such as tacky, rude, money hungry…ect.  And, to be honest with whomever is reading this-we are cool with that, because we already know who we are IN CHRIST with our without PEOPLE telling us their thoughts-lol

Being that both Liz and I are very fun and outgoing, we thought it would be nice to help other business minded folks get some exposure for their business.  If you would have noticed when this letter was sent there were only like 3 months left for our wedding.  For those that are unfortunately established in negative thinking, you said…they can’t afford it and need to get money to pay for it cause it is less than three months away-THAT’S FUNNY to us.  Why couldn’t it be, wow they have this thing ALREADY paid in full and wanted to be a blessing to other people with these last 3 months.  If you took the time at all to fully understand us, you would know our source of income doesn’t come from PEOPLE anyways.  I have enjoyed reading comments from folks that seem to think money or living a life of abundance has anything to do with asking PEOPLE to give to you…  God is and has always been our source. 

Just wanted to share along with everyone else-THANK YOU!!

Blessed to be a blessing,
Scott and Liz

Post # 50
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4 posts
Wannabee

AND another thing… we were not adding up our honeymoon expenses…we were simply putting small amounts up so that anyone could take part and not think they had to give 100’s to take part in this adventure-haha, amaz’n 

By The Way, it isn’t to late to give either…LOL
http://www.scottandliz.org

Post # 51
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47 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2008

Wow, I am amazed. You really think we beleive your decision to do this was because you wanted to help small businesses?  if you wanted to help them, why not just advertise for them on your wedding without requiring them to pay.  I hope you see the flawed logic with whaty you are saying

Post # 52
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

Good point NorthCarolina. Also, if your wedding is already paid for, why the need for sponsors and how exactly is that helping others? I stand by my original comment. 

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Um, if you are charging the businesses for the placements, then you aren’t being altruistic, its just  a business deal, pure and simple.  If you were "helping" businesses, you would do it for free.  If you charge them, you aren’t doing them you aren’t doing anyone any favors,

 Despite your statements that you enjoyed reading this and find us all oh-so-humorous, you seem pretty pissed off.  If you are going to put yourself out there the way you did by commercializing your wedding day, then you need to be able to deal with opinions you aren’t going to like. 

 

Post # 54
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Scott, Aside from the fact that I still think this whole idea is totally tacky and tasteless, regardless of what you might have to say…

Please don’t invoke your religion here. You and Liz have decided to have a big wedding. A big wedding that you either cannot afford or do not want to pay for on your own. This whole thing has become a huge spectacle with an empahsis on material things. The material things you want your sponsors to pay for and the material things your sponsors are advertisitng. As a Christian, you should know how abhorrent that must be to the Lord. I am also a Christian and usually do not like to call people out on things faith related, especially people I don’t know, but I just really can’t stand you using your faith to justify what you are doing here. God calls us to be humble and live spartan lives. If having a big, sponsored wedding is not the opposite of that, I don’t know what is.The focus is no longer on the love you have been blessed with but on the stuff you want to have at your wedding. 

If this is how you want to pay for your wedding, that is totally your prerogative. Just don’t call on God to help you justify it in your own mind. You and I both know that’s not right. 

Post # 55
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Scott – it’s your wedding, so like you said, do as you like.  The thing that’s bothering me is that if you HAVE the money to cover this, why not encourage these people to give to couples that don’t instead and give things away to OTHERS through your site?  I think asking for things for free (even as gifts) if you don’t need them is a little selfish, so why don’t you put the good idea to work for someone that really could use a helping hand.  Then you’d really be a blessing to other people…

Post # 56
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47 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2008

Mrs. SPitzer you said that so nicely.   THere’s nothing so abhorrant as someone justifying their actions simply based on thier high religious morals and beliefs.    What you are doing "is what it is".   Sure you are sugar coating it and convincing yourself that your actions are really a blessing to others, but thats hypocracy and denial in its most banal form.  There’s nothing worse than people who veil or justify their actions as being motivited by their faith, or someone "okay" b/c of their faith.    God would want y ou to be honest with yourself and others and admit your real motivations — wantinjg publicity, more attention, a nicer honeymoon, better favors/gifts at your wedding — but without having to pay for it.     There’s nothing wrong with that in and of itself, but what IS wrong is trying to justify it as a self-less blessing to others

Post # 57
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Wannabee

Hey Everyone…

 It is good to see so many folks out and sharing opinions.  I reread our letter and never did is say anything about a charge?  For those that know me, I really am not one to tit4tat, so there won’t be alot of rebuttals or disagreements.  However I do wish that everyone reading this would take the time to reach out and get to know folks before casting judgement.  And just for the record, I am not mad, upset, or anything.  Like I said in the first post…everyone has an opinion and I honestly enjoy reading them all. 

Be Blessed

Scott

Post # 58
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Sugar bee

Some of these comments feel a bit like personal attacks, so I’m going to go ahead and close this thread.

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