(Closed) Interesting article on Childfree by "Circumstance"

posted 4 years ago in No Kids
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

This could be my best friend (except for the grief part). She likes kids, imagined herself having them “someday”. But the right guy didn’t come along and she was pursuing 2 degrees through higher education and we will both turn 39 next month. She has said that she guessed kids won’t be in the cards for her- but she isn’t devastated about it and I doubt she would say she experienced grief. She has travelled extensively, had some cool jobs and now has a boyfriend who doesn’t seem to care about kids one way or the other. And she is very happy with her childfree life. She dotes on my kids and those of her other friends- but her life is full in so many ways she doesnt feel the need for any of her own. 

Honestly, this is the CFBC type of people I know- I have several friends who it just didn’t happen for- not because of kid hatred or medical reasons. But because time marches on and they chose different life experiences.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

It’s always great to have more resources for Bee’s who join the CFBC family either by choice or circumstance. Let them know by however means they came to this choice, there is peace at the end and a welcoming society. I’ve always said I’m the product of circumstance then choice. And it’s all valid! Thanks for the link bee! 🐝 

Post # 5
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672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I figured it might be Jody Day.  I think she is doing something really great – women who end up childless “by circumstance” can tend to feel lonely.  And there are plenty of other women who judge them as weird or something.

Oh I just love the “you could have adopted”.  Um, yeah, you can just walk into an adoption agency and they give you a baby!  Such ignorance, I have no idea why people always seem to say that.  And btw, there aren’t as many kids who need homes as there used to be back in the day.  Because nowadays it is acceptable for women to have a child out of wedlock and be a single mother, whereas it never used to be acceptable.  So for kids to be available for adoption there would have to be certain circumstances – and that is also why many go through international adoption.  Anyway, not that I am an expert but again, people always have to chime in with ignorance.

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