Post # 1
I ran across this post today in a blog that I like. It made me think about Mother-In-Law issues in a whole different light. Just in general.
Disclaimer – I know a LOT of us have MILs or FMILs who actually are batsh*t crazy. So this wouldn’t necessarily apply. I’m talking more of the run-of-the-mill MILs who are relatively normal, but sometimes exhibit problems “letting go.”
Post # 3
I don’t have kids but that post almost made me cry! Very interesting perspective. I bookmarked her blog!
Post # 4
haha i’m bumping this … these are all the things my mom, of four sons, always worried about!
Post # 5
Thanks for sharing this. I am also a mother of a son and it makes you think.
Post # 6
It’s interesting to be a wife and mom(bonus mom, but that still counts), with a husband and a son. It’s also more interesting, because my Mother-In-Law is one of the bats**t crazy MIL’s. I try to get my husband to talk to his mother but because of her batsh**tiness he usually won’t. I’ll hate they day when the little guy’s wife has to remind him to call me. Hopefully, I won’t be crazy and he will.
Post # 7
Thanks for sharing this! My Mother-In-Law is an amazing woman and Darling Husband is her only son. Its a perspective I wouldn’t have naturally seen on my own but am glad to have been let in on. Very sweet.
Post # 8
Great post! It helps me understand my Future Mother-In-Law a little better!
Post # 9
I appreciate you sharing this. Sometimes it’s nice to have a reminder that this wedding isn’t all about me after all.
Post # 10
This is exactly why I remind Darling Husband to call his mother and why we call her first with any news. It’s also why we give her Christmas every year which is not a small sacrifice. Luckily Darling Husband isn’t an only child, AND my Mother-In-Law has a granddaughter, but I can only imagine how important it is for her to hear from my Darling Husband often.
Post # 11
It’s a very nice article, but I have one the crazy MIL’s that this doesn’t apply to so any time I read something like this I just roll my eyes and think to myself that when that boy turns into a man and really does love someone else it’s going to be a hard road for husband and wife. Bitter? Yep. 🙂
Post # 12
I don’t think you should compare husband/wife love with parent/child love. I don’t love my dad any less or differently, or avoid talking to him because I now have a husband. But maybe this explains why my Mother-In-Law seems to think that when my husband doesn’t talk to her, it’s somehow because I told him not to, instead of the fact that he just doesn’t want to!
Post # 13
I really liked the article. Thanks for sharing!
I sent it to my Mother-In-Law and thanked her for raising my husband so well and sharing him with me. She’s a wonderful lady and I do think part of why my husband treats me so well–is so sensitive to me–is because of how he was raised.
Post # 14
Brianalaura thanks. It’s so true, romatic love is not the same as familial love. Yet so many times mother’s act like we are taking them away and making them not matter anymore. Uuuum… no. It’s called growing up. Get used to it. There isn’t a finite amount of love people have. Just because he loves his wife doesn’t mean he does not love his mother, or sister, or aunt, or whatever anymore. We all love different people in different ways. They wiped their tears, and rocked them to sleep at night and invested time into the relationship… good. That’s what you’re supposed to do. It’s called being a mother.
Post # 15
Now I feel guilty for not getting along so well with my batsh!t crazy Future Mother-In-Law… Fiance gets annoyed by her so easily (and I can’t really blame him) but I sent that to him so maybe he would have some perspective on why his mother is so clingy… It also explains why she wants to be over invloved the the wedding planning process. She doesn’t have a daughter that she gets to plan a wedding with. She has two boys. But now I think I know why I don’t really want boys… I don’t know if I could handle that!
Post # 16
@mwitter80: I love the “bonus mom” thing. I am going to remember that!