Post # 1
I’ve been kind of MIA on the waiting board, but still lurking on other boards. Anyway, I have an interesting update and I wanted to share ’cause only other waiting girls understand.
My SO and I were talking over the weekend about rings. He went on to say that he would never let me help him pick a ring because “it defeats the purpose” and how that is the guy’s domain. I was also able to interject that I would never want a super expensive ring (unless we’re filthy rich, of course) and that I would be happy with something from Craig’s List.
I felt really positive about this conversation because for the past year I have been wanting to tell him that I don’t expect an expensive ring, but everytime I’ve tried the conversation didn’t go how I wanted to. But, now he knows. He also said that if he could afford it, if he were ever going to propose to someone he would want to get a custom made ring and so on. It was very cute.
We also talked about weddings and the cost, and I was also able to share that I don’t want a super expensive wedding either. I even had the chance to tell him what my dream wedding was.
I don’t think that means that we’ll run out and get engaged tomorrow, but the fact that we can now have an open dialogue about these things is progress. Also, to me, the fact that he already has such strong feelings about the ring process, and ideas of how he would pick out a ring, and so on makes me feel that he is really evaluating and thinking about it all. Yay!
Anyway, just wanted to share!
Post # 3
Yay, you’re getting closer!
My SO thinks all the surprise is taken out if I help pick. I’m not really happy with that choice but I do understand it. Hopefully my so’s taste is good hehe!
Post # 4
Congratulations on getting that conversation out of the way! I know how hard of a step that was for both of you to take. At least now, you can rest assured that he knows what your expections are and vice versa. Best of luck and hope if comes soon for you both.
Post # 5
That’s so exciting that you are talking about it that much!
Post # 6
That’s great! It always feels better to talk about things. My bf has the same feelings – he doesn’t really want me involved in the whole ring shopping process. He thinks that’s the guy’s job. I think I’ll love whatever he gets me…but as a type A person it’s hard not to give him any input!
Post # 7
That’s exciting! I remember how exciting it was to be able to tell my boy about the wedding I thought we would have. And he won’t give me a time frame for when the engagement will happen, he just says sometime in the next year. He tried saying a year and a half at first but I was like, nope, that’s not going to work. I want to get married in Fall 2011. I need at least 6 months to plan a wedding. So he said sometime in the next year and he’s holding firm.
I love having open dialogue, but I always preface it with, “Can I talk about wedding stuff now?” and he goes, “Yes you may.” Then I launch into whatever thing I’ve been obsessing over.
Post # 8
This is a huge step. He is more than thinking about marriage with you. Just be patient but feel free to squeal inside with excitement. You sharing your financial goals and dreams for the wedding and engagement must have made him feel less pressure.
Post # 9
Yey! Awesome Step Forward!!!
Post # 10
awesome step forward! the mister and i had a similar discussion not too long ago and since then, the wedding has been a common topic of conversation. it feels great!
Post # 11
That’s great news!! Y’all are so close!
My guy is the same way about the ring.LOL
Post # 12
I personally don’t want to help pick out the ring or be involved. I want a total surprise! Although I want it NOW. LOL!