(Closed) Interesting to say the least.

posted 6 years ago in Legal
Post # 3
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I think it is a bit overkill.  Then again…maybe she should be a truly independent adult and foot the bill for her education. 

Post # 4
8610 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

If she truly wanted to be so independent from them, I don’t really get why she would allow them to pay for absolutely everything.


Post # 6
2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

She said that her parents made her Skype at night to make sure she stayed in her dorm.  THats a little bit of an overkill for parenting, isnt it?

Post # 7
559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I saw this on Inside Higher Ed.  It really sounded as if the parents were making a problem for the college — the dean had talked about having security present at the girl’s performances and at the girl’s dorm for her safety and to minimise disruptions from the parents.

Having had to deal with helicopter parents when I was grading for classes and dealing with college students, it doesn’t surprise me.  There are some people who are absolutely insane about controlling their kid’s every move, and would send me threatening emails for giving their kids bad grades (which they had earned, thank you).  I was just the TA!  I’m inclined to sympathise with the student, honestly.  Installing monitoring software on a college student’s laptop and cell phone is crazy.  She’s 21.  And the university gave her a scholarship so that she isn’t reliant on her parents for tuition.  It sounds to me like the parents are unbalanced and controlling.  Drop in visits for the department head from Kansas?  That’s a sign of a major problem, here.  If the university perceives it as a problem and the student does as well, let alone the judge, then I think there’s probably a reason.

Post # 8
5107 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m not sure how keeping her parents 500 feet away from her will keep her away from her life. They will still stalk her via the internet, cell phones, etc.

That being said, I’m siding with the student. Is it something I would do? No. Is it fair to the parents, on an emotional level? No. But it is her legal right.

ETA: On second thought, I do think she should have to pay for education from here on out. I agree that she should be financially independent if she wanted to be emotionally independent as she thought she deserved to be. What’s done is done, she shouldn’t have to refund them what they’ve paid. We don’t know the whole story, the parents may have told her it was a gift and a gift is a gift.

Post # 9
1222 posts
Bumble bee

This is parental overkill. Even though I still live with my parents, they have never gone this far. Making her keep Skype on to make sure she’s asleep? That’s ridiculous. She’s 21 and in college on scholarship, so it’s a reasonable bet that she’s made good decisions, so give her some space and trust her to do right. I understand college is a hard transition for parents, but this is beyond a healthy level of attachment.

Post # 10
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It sounds like the parents were going overboard and the courts obviously agreed. It’s now the parents’ right to decide how to respond to this. I hope that they would cut off all her financial support, since she decided play hardball.

Post # 11
2363 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

Phew Im so glad my parents werent like this! If they were that concerned with her mental health why would they have let her go to school so far away? I side with the student, but agree that from here on out she also pays her own way

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