Post # 1
We are trying to decide on what kind of church or how we will be able to do our wedding. My fiance is catholic he went to catholic school so has done the baptism, first communion, confirmation and so on. I was baptized catholic but after that I was raised christian. Which leads to problems to be married in the catholic church on top of the classes I would have to do first communion and confirmation which really inst something I am interested in doing. We really want our wedding in July since that is the month we started dating and the month we got engaged but that means its a little to hot for an outside wedding or at least my fiance thinks so. Could we get married in another church without having to convert or should I just get prepared for converting?? Ant suggestions will be appreciated!
Post # 2
You don’t have to convert or confirm to get married in the Catholic Church. The only reason you should convert is if Catholicism truly speaks to you and you want the whole mass service at your wedding. You do have to do premarital counseling to be married by a priest, though, and agree to not interfere with your husband’s faith and agree to allow your children to experience the Church.
Post # 3
The church we were looking at was the church I was baptized in since it is closest to everyone who lives here and they were saying I needed to fulling convert. I would never interfere with my fiances faith we just dont talk about religion so we dont say anything to upset the other but we did agree we will have our future children baptized and most likely then decide on a religion so our children could go to church so that is no problem. Hopefully I can find a church that will just have us to do the classes but will not require me to fully convert.
Post # 4
I think that’s a really common misconception. Don’t listen to regular people about complicated faith things. Call up the priest and meet with him to discuss. I’ve never heard of a modern parish not allowing one Catholic to marry a non-Catholic if they did the classes and counseling first.
Post # 5
I agree with PP’s you DON’T need to convert to have a Catholic ceremony as long as one of you is Catholic and the pre-cana is complete. Set up an appointment with the priest and he’ll let you know where to begin.
Post # 6
What everyone else said. I am a fully initiated Catholic and married in the Catholic Church to a baptized Christian.
Post # 7
Agree with this.
Also, I think you need to double check your terminology. You said “I was baptized catholic but after that I was raised christian.” Catholics are Christian (that is to say, anyone being raised Catholic is being raised Christian). Do you mean that you were raised to be non-denominational? Were you raised in another Christian denomination (like Methodist or Baptist)?
If you were baptized Catholic and are simply non-practicing, you don’t need to “convert” as you’re still a member of the Catholic church. You simply need to perform the sacriments of confession, eucharist, and confirmation. Confession and Eucharist you can do at any time; confirmation may take more time.
Basically you don’t need to convert, you just need to catch up.
Here’s a quick cheat sheet I found online: http://www.catholic.com/quickquestions/must-i-go-through-rcia-to-join-the-church-if-i-am-already-baptized
In case you don’t want to read the whole thing: “the Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults–is for those who have never been initiated into the Catholic Church. You have received your basic initiation by virtue of your Catholic baptism. What you need now is to learn the Church’s teachings (which you are already doing) and make your first confession and First Communion and to be confirmed.”
ETA: You don’t need to do these things to get married, you would need to do them to be considered a practicing Catholic. I’m commenting on your use of the word “convert” (which you don’t need to do since you’ve already been baptized Catholic), not on the marriage requirements. Agree with all other PP’s about the marriage requirements.
Post # 8
have you tried a unitarian house of worship? I know a lot of interfaith couples that haver gone that way and been very happy.