Post # 1
Hello all! Help!! I’m stuck and can’t get out of the hole. I’m getting married in less than a month and while we’re calling this an “Interfaith Wedding”, we’re getting married by a Jewish Rabbi and trying to infuse some Catholic wedding traditions into it. I’m trying to create a program, but am having a ton of difficulty. My fiance doesn’t want it to look “too Jewish”, but he’s not giving me anything Catholic to put in (we’re doing the unity sand ceremony and having a friend do a reading on love/marriage, not typical in a Jewish wedding). Does anyone have an Interfaith wedding program they did they can send me or give me ideas on what to put in it????
Post # 3
Get your hands on a copy of the book Celebrating Interfaith Marriages: Creating Your Jewish/Christian Ceremony by Rabbi Devon Lerner. It’s written by a rabbi, so obviously has a bit more of the Jewish perspective, but it includes sample services from several interfaith ceremonies and a really good breakdown of each piece of a wedding service with options for readings and blessings that you could use. She does include several more Christian traditions that you could add. I’m using this book a lot in wedding prep.
I’m a Lutheran (my fiance is Jewish), so I don’t know how too much about what is really important in Catholic weddings, but in Lutheran services, including weddings, hymns and singing are very present. (Which my fiance thinks is very strange.) Maybe you can add a Catholic/Christian hymn to the service that you and/or your fiance particularly like.
You could have a friend or family member (or obliging priest) offer a more Catholic blessing during the service. Or do that “Love is patient, love is kind” number as a reading (from Paul’s first letter to the Corinthians).
One thing to remember is that a lot of Jewish wedding traditions (the chuppah, the breaking of the glass) are very visibly different from traditional American weddings in a way that Christian weddings are not. So it might just look like a Jewish wedding to some people, especially if your fiance’s friends and family haven’t been to an interfaith or Jewish wedding ceremony before. And that’s okay. As long as the service is meaningful to both of you and includes the things that are important to you, it’ll be wonderful.
Post # 4
We had an interfaith ceremony at the Jewel Box in St. Louis, but were not married by a rabbi or priest. However, we did include a couple traditions from each religion. Since my relatives and most friends are Christian, we thought that we’d also include a sign near the box with yarmulkes for those that were not familiar with the tradition.
This was the ceremony sequence, which was printed on one petal of our program:
Ring Warming Ritual
Remembrance of Loved Ones
Charge to Couple
Exchange of Vows
Exchange of Rings
Unity Candle Lighting
Declaration of Marriage
Here’s a pic for you to view.