(Closed) International business trip week of the wedding. Would you freak out? POLL

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: What would you do in my position
    I wouldn't go : (6 votes)
    16 %
    I'd go but be freaking out like you : (15 votes)
    41 %
    I'd go without any worries, what's the issue?? : (16 votes)
    43 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
    1432 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Since it seems like you have to go on this trip, I would try to ease up on the stress. 

    I think you should also have a back up plan – like if you miss your flight home or it’s cancelled, what are you going to do?  Fly to Paris and take the Eurostar or something?  Write down all your options, including flight numbers and times, phone numbers, etc.

    Also, even if you have to stay an additional day in Italy, at least you have buffer days between then and the wedding.  I would be alarmed if you were supposed to fly back the day before your wedding.

    Sorry you have to worry about this now.  Good luck!


    Post # 3
    554 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I would tell my bos I can’t do it! I tend to freak out about things like this though! Really, you should be completely fine.. but what if?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!?

    I have taken the week before my wedding off work to de-stress & have time to attend to all the little things. 


    ETA: I should add that I live in Australia, so all international flights are much much more than 3 hours. I probably wouldn’t freak out so much if I was flying interstate (same distance/time)

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by  luxelove.
    Post # 6
    1432 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Steph77:  I hate when people stick their nose into other people’s business, especially with realllly unhelpful comments like, “calm down.”   

    But honestly, I understand where you’re coming from because Italy is like another world – they really do run on their own time and don’t seem to care about deadlines.  I LOVE the country, don’t get me wrong.  But the amount of bureaucracy they seem to incorporate into everything, combined with their lackadaisical nature, is enough to drive you insane if you actually have a deadline or something important to do!  If it was Germany or France I really wouldn’t be worrying so much, lol.

    Alll I can say is that I hope you’re not flying with Alitalia!  🙂

    Post # 7
    2178 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think that its fair to have a back up plan ready to go but I do think that you should plan on going. Is travel normally part of your job or is this just a totally random one off thing?

    For me I travel all the time and I also had to travel the week before my wedding (about 2.5 hr flight) but it was someplace that I go all the time (like every few weeks) so it wasn’t that big of a deal to me since there are like 10 flights per day and if it really was an issue I could have driven home (18 hr drive so not really the best option but if I had to I could have)

    if this is just a random one off thing that isn’t usually part of your job then I could see why you would feel like its a crazy request

    Post # 8
    2942 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would be freaking out, and you have every right to.  I suggest like PP said, finding every alternative way to get home if something would arise.  What other airlines are flying that date to where you need go?  Out of which airport?  What train would get you home the fastest (and feel very lucky for high spead rail at that point!)?   The lucky thing about Europe is that there are a ton of transperation options if need be.

    Post # 9
    302 posts
    Helper bee

    My bosses do this to me all the time! ‘oh hey drop everything you’re doing and go to california for two days. It’s just two days!’ ugh. I feel your pain. 

    I wouldnt go if I were you. My wedding is the 28th and I spent all of last week at a trade show across the country. I had 3 separate freakouts trying to coordinate wedding related things while I was a 4 hr flight away from home. It was a disaster. 

    I don’t know what the parameters of your job are or why this is a requirement, but personally think it’s not fair for your employer to ask you to compromise personal time and sanity the week of your wedding.  It’s not a birthday party, vacation, or holiday. It’s your WEDDING. What is it about this trip that it absolutely cannot wait until the week after? Or that someone else can’t fill in for you?

    Post # 11
    8686 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I wasn’t stressed the week of my wedding so I say it can be done easily. Yes, you have some last minute things to do but since you know in advance you will be gone (only three days) then you just do it before. I would do it. I worked the entire week before my wedding and I was alright. My husband did also. I think he was deployed too but I can’t remember…..

    Post # 12
    233 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Steph77:  I’m in the UK as well and have to go to California for work a week before the wedding. I was in a lucky position that it was something that I could have turned down if I wanted to but it was too big an opportunity for me to miss. Maybe because i had the choice I’ve not let it stress me, I plan on having as much as possible all sorted before I leave and I’m just going to ask my Fiance and mum to keep an eyes on and check up on things beforehand while I’m away. Italy really isn’t too far and if there are any problems getting back there are usually lots of other options so you could just check up on them beforehand so you know. I am getting married in Italy because it’s where I’m from but now my parents live in the UK as do I and my fiancé so I’ll be relying on my mum checking over the phone until she arrives and my cousins and aunt that still live over there to keep an eye on things.

    At the end of the day you know yourself better than anyone on here well and you can know if you would find it really stressful and something that it is worth you doing or not.

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