Post # 1
Hi Bees, I just need a sanity check on this one. Im getting married on Saturday 21st, it’s my Fiances birthday on Friday 20th and were travelling to the venue that day. (It’s a domestic destination). I have holiday booked for wedding prep from Thursday 19th.
Im in the UK and have a last minute requirement to travel to Italy for work Monday to Wednesday, 16th-18th. The return flight is Wednesday evening and flights from this airport only run once a day Mon / Wed / Fri so if we miss it or its cancelled we’d be looking at land travel to another airport and multiple connections….
Italy is also notorious for industrial action though there’s none currently planned.
I’ve agreed to do the trip but I am freaking out a little. My boss is looking at me like I’m being a little ridiculous and taking the attitude that’s its Italy (3 hour flight) not the moon and you’re not getting married to Saturday, calm the heck down!
Am I being crazy?
Post # 2
Since it seems like you have to go on this trip, I would try to ease up on the stress.
I think you should also have a back up plan – like if you miss your flight home or it’s cancelled, what are you going to do? Fly to Paris and take the Eurostar or something? Write down all your options, including flight numbers and times, phone numbers, etc.
Also, even if you have to stay an additional day in Italy, at least you have buffer days between then and the wedding. I would be alarmed if you were supposed to fly back the day before your wedding.
Sorry you have to worry about this now. Good luck!
Post # 3
I would tell my bos I can’t do it! I tend to freak out about things like this though! Really, you should be completely fine.. but what if?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!?
I have taken the week before my wedding off work to de-stress & have time to attend to all the little things.
ETA: I should add that I live in Australia, so all international flights are much much more than 3 hours. I probably wouldn’t freak out so much if I was flying interstate (same distance/time)
Post # 4
MsGolightly: Ive made a note of alternative flights & even worked out how to get home by train if all flights are cancelled! I feel a lot calmer now, thanks for the suggestion!
Post # 5
Im quietly sat at my desk putting together my back up plan to get home if disaster strikes, not saying anything, no drama, and a single female colleague who saw my screen just felt it was ok to tell me I ‘just need to chill out’ and its ‘really a non-issue’.
She has never planned a wedding, she has no idea how much both Fiance & I have invested in this both emotionally and financially and furthermore she has absolutely no clue about the actual logistics involved. When I politely pointed this out to her she liked at me like I was crazy.
Maybe I’m having wedding melt down but that just made me really angry, Grrrrr, vent over
Post # 6
Steph77: I hate when people stick their nose into other people’s business, especially with realllly unhelpful comments like, “calm down.”
But honestly, I understand where you’re coming from because Italy is like another world – they really do run on their own time and don’t seem to care about deadlines. I LOVE the country, don’t get me wrong. But the amount of bureaucracy they seem to incorporate into everything, combined with their lackadaisical nature, is enough to drive you insane if you actually have a deadline or something important to do! If it was Germany or France I really wouldn’t be worrying so much, lol.
Alll I can say is that I hope you’re not flying with Alitalia! 🙂
Post # 7
I think that its fair to have a back up plan ready to go but I do think that you should plan on going. Is travel normally part of your job or is this just a totally random one off thing?
For me I travel all the time and I also had to travel the week before my wedding (about 2.5 hr flight) but it was someplace that I go all the time (like every few weeks) so it wasn’t that big of a deal to me since there are like 10 flights per day and if it really was an issue I could have driven home (18 hr drive so not really the best option but if I had to I could have)
if this is just a random one off thing that isn’t usually part of your job then I could see why you would feel like its a crazy request
Post # 8
I would be freaking out, and you have every right to. I suggest like PP said, finding every alternative way to get home if something would arise. What other airlines are flying that date to where you need go? Out of which airport? What train would get you home the fastest (and feel very lucky for high spead rail at that point!)? The lucky thing about Europe is that there are a ton of transperation options if need be.
Post # 9
My bosses do this to me all the time! ‘oh hey drop everything you’re doing and go to california for two days. It’s just two days!’ ugh. I feel your pain.
I wouldnt go if I were you. My wedding is the 28th and I spent all of last week at a trade show across the country. I had 3 separate freakouts trying to coordinate wedding related things while I was a 4 hr flight away from home. It was a disaster.
I don’t know what the parameters of your job are or why this is a requirement, but personally think it’s not fair for your employer to ask you to compromise personal time and sanity the week of your wedding. It’s not a birthday party, vacation, or holiday. It’s your WEDDING. What is it about this trip that it absolutely cannot wait until the week after? Or that someone else can’t fill in for you?
Post # 10
LAX03: this is a new job I only started in January which increases the pressure to go. Business travel is a regular requirement though this will be my first trip. I am managing the introduction of a new product range which has run late, the final samples need to be signed off and the quickest way is for someone too fly out to the factory. It’s all perfectly logical until you factor in my Wedding.
I’ve found a flight home on the Tuesday night from an airport an hour and a half away from the one we’re flying into & I’m going to ask if I can get that flight. It might not be possible for any number of reasons but I can at least ask. Wish me luck!
Post # 11
I wasn’t stressed the week of my wedding so I say it can be done easily. Yes, you have some last minute things to do but since you know in advance you will be gone (only three days) then you just do it before. I would do it. I worked the entire week before my wedding and I was alright. My husband did also. I think he was deployed too but I can’t remember…..
Post # 12
Steph77: I’m in the UK as well and have to go to California for work a week before the wedding. I was in a lucky position that it was something that I could have turned down if I wanted to but it was too big an opportunity for me to miss. Maybe because i had the choice I’ve not let it stress me, I plan on having as much as possible all sorted before I leave and I’m just going to ask my Fiance and mum to keep an eyes on and check up on things beforehand while I’m away. Italy really isn’t too far and if there are any problems getting back there are usually lots of other options so you could just check up on them beforehand so you know. I am getting married in Italy because it’s where I’m from but now my parents live in the UK as do I and my fiancé so I’ll be relying on my mum checking over the phone until she arrives and my cousins and aunt that still live over there to keep an eye on things.
At the end of the day you know yourself better than anyone on here well and you can know if you would find it really stressful and something that it is worth you doing or not.