Post # 1
My daughter (American) is marrying a Welsh man and will be moving to Wales after their wedding. The wedding will be in America, as will her shower, and gifts are a complication since shipping costs would be exhorbitant and she doesn’t want to take much with her.
We are looking for ways for her to register for wedding & shower gifts that can be bought online from U.K. merchants, reducing shipping costs. OR simply other appropriate gift ideas that would work in this circumstance.
Also, I would appreciate input as to if it is appropriate to suggest how people gift them on their wedding invitation.
Thank you for any help you can give me!
Post # 3
Get her to register online at a big department store like Debenhams or John Lewis where they will be able to keep the gifts in store until she is ready to pick them up! Whichever part of Wales she moves to, I’m sure there will be a Debenhams near, they are EVERYWHERE!
Post # 4
@Cleoka: Thank you for your wonderful suggestion! I have another question … what about the difference in currency? How does that work?
Post # 5
American buyers can use their own card on a UK website – my other half is American and has no problem buying things on UK sites to be delivered straight to me. The card issuer sorts out the currency conversion.
Post # 6
@MamaCash: I agree with the above, John Lewis would be my preference 🙂
If you buy with your normal bank card you’lll get an exchange rate set by your bank, which might not be the best on the market. You can buy £pounds when it’s a good rate and put them on something like a Mastercard travel card? That’s what we’ve been doing when we have been buying things from the US. However, this might not be convenient for the amount of people who will be buying? Hmm… sorry, can’t offer much more advice, but yes.. John Lewis, House of Fraser, Debenhams… all good choices.
Post # 6
I am in a similar situation! Except the fiancé and I are moving to Iceland where there really aren’t any big stores and the concept of registries don’t really exist, the stores websites are all in Icelandic and usually aren’t very comprehensive.
We are using SimpleRegistry.com where we can register for specific items and people can “buy” those items, but it really gives us the cash for them. We will buy the exact item as much as possible, but in some cases we might have to buy something similar when we get to Iceland. I wasn’t really happy about the simple registry, ettiquette-wise, but since people register for their honeymoons now it didn’t seem *too* bad.<br /><br />The only store that exists in both countries for home goods is Ikea and it seems tacky to register for too much there, although we are registering for several items from Ikea.
Post # 7
I’m in a similar situation. FI and I live in Australia, but are getting married in America. Most of the guests will be my side side in America and will be going back to Oz after the wedding.
Instead of a “traditional” registry, we are doing a honeymoon registry. We’re setting up a website and putting the link to the registry there. We’ll also put the links on the RSVP cards/insert of the invites. And we’re setting up a wishing well next to the guest book at the wedding.
Also, our photographer offers a registry, so guests can contribute to our albums and any other artwork we might want.
Those are some suggestions if they’ve already set up house in Wales. If not, they could always set up a separate account and they could deposit money in the “wishing well account”. Once they get to Wales, they’ll be able to pick out what they like/need from the stores that are around them.
Post # 8
Assuming it is like the American site in the way of wedding registries, you can register on Amazon.co.uk. Some of the American guests may feel more comfortable with Amazon as many are familiar with it in the US. If you already have an American Amazon account, you use the same account on the Amazon UK website without having to create another one.
I wish your daughter good luck! I am in the same boat trying to figure out how to register since I live in Istanbul and all of my family is in the US. Unfortunately Amazon UK only ships books to Turkey: ( And I have yet to find someplace I can register so I will just register for non-electrics in US and ship via cargo container with my belongings.
Post # 9
I had a cousin in a similar situation and she didn’t register. People gave her cash for the wedding. She also did not have a shower, but I think she was happier with the cash gifts to allow her to start her life in her new country.
Post # 10
Registering at an overseas store already sends a clear message, but just to hammer it in for the obtuse, I would also heavily emphasize that the bride and groom are settling in Wales after their marriage (both in your conversation, and possibly on a wedding website). I hope nobody would be so clueless as to bring a large, unwieldy gift to a couple moving across an ocean!
Post # 11
I second the notion of registering for places based in the UK and having US people purchase gifts there. It isn’t hard to do, just make sure everyone is aware of the currency conversion rates so they don’t accidentally pay more than they’re expecting to.
Post # 12
I second John Lewis or Debenhams. Both are of very good repute, offer a wide range of products and their wedding registries are well used and popular. I don’t know where your daughter will be settling in Wales but it is a small country with cities that have excellent shops and John Lewis have branches in Cardiff and Bangor.