(Closed) International RSVP

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I realized this right before we sent out invitations, and I think we just sent those without RSVP postage. We didn’t have any way to get the proper postage for them and obviously they can’t use our domestic postage, so I figured either they can use a stamp of their own or just contact us directly. A note is a nice idea too, I wish I’d thought to include that!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Agree with PP – I have a similar situation – will have online RSVP option for anyone outside of the country.  Having a phone or email option is fine as well.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

If you go to the USPS (United States Postal Service) website you can calculate the postage and then attach the correct amount for them. That’s what we did.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Oh geeze, I hadn’t thought about this problem at all.  We’re from the US and will be sending invitations to the UK, Italy, Japan, Canada, and Australia.  Maybe I’ll make a separate response card for them that just says to email me.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@yellowshoe: I don’t think you can use US postage for return cards.  I think that the originating country’s postage needs to be used.  Not entirely sure though.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@lmoss78: You’re right. Mail must be stamped with the postage from the country where it’s mailed from. 

I think it’s best to just ask guests to email or call you. Fiance & I have lots of family all over the world and this is what everyone does for RSVPs. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@SarahSmilesDec28:

I think you might be surprised — and gratified — to know how many people there are who still know how to write out a perfectly polite reply to an invitation on their own stationery, which they then mail with their own stamp. In fact, it doesn’t seem to me all that long ago that it was considered slightly insulting to receive an “R.s.v.p.” card with an invitation, as if the hostess were hinting that I wouldn’t have the means or inclination to reply properly unless she helped me out. High sticklers for etiquette still consider it MORE polite to do without R.s.v.p. cards. I find it rather nice that the most traditional etiquette solution is also the most practical solution that raises the fewest complications — as is so often the case.

Nonetheless it is very generous of you to provide a $4.50 international reply coupon for a card that would cost $0.44 to mail with a native U.S. stamp on it. For the rest of your guests who you hope will reply by email, correct form is to write “R.s.v.p” (or more formally, “The favour of a reply is requested”) in small script in the lower left corner of the invitation itself, with the email address or other contact information (such as website or phone number)  underneath it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@SarahSmilesDec28: Oh! That is good to know! I thought that there must be some sort of solution. A bit pricey but worth it if you really want an RSVP returned. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We had about 35 international guests from 5 different countries.  We opted not to include return postage on those RSVP envelopes (which would have required us contacting our family or friends in those 5 countries to have them send us postage so that we could then send them postage!…seemed pointless to us).  I figured they would either reach out to us via email or our wedding website.  I was wrong!  With the exception of DH’s Uncle in Morocco, every single international guest sent the RSVP back and paid for their own postage.  

I realise you already paid $4.50 for each international guest, but that seems steep. They could have paid for their own postage for a lot less.  For future brides, I would suggest just sending them without postage.  People will find a way of contacting you 🙂

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