Post # 1
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Worker bee
Hello everyone. My name is Nielsy. I am Dominica-American and my husband is Polish. When my husband and I first started dating, his mother wasn’t comfortable with the fact that I was Hispanic because she wanted her son to be with a Polish woman. After she got to know me, she started liking me. My father wasn’t happy at all, especially when I told him that my husband and I were going to marry back in May of last year. He didn’t like the fact that my husband is Polish. I was really upset and i even cried numerous times. My father wanted me to cancel the wedding so bad but I didn’t. I married my husband anyway. My father is now dealing with it even though he still doesn’t like it.
I was wondering, has anyone here been in a situation like this? If so how were you able to get through it?
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
I deal with it everyday..im mixed ( american indian, african american and german) my Fiance is itailan.
His family is VERYYYYY traditional, besides me being colored im not catholic which doenst go well with the family.
However we get thru it like this : we love each other
He told his family quite simply hes happy with me and if they love him they will love me…. I will have to say 95% of them are fine with the fact that we are getting married once they got to know me. His family even now asks for me to cook and cant wait for me to learn the family recipes!
As much as you may love your family, they arent the ones that you have to lay with at night. Love sees no color, be happy and true to those you love, and embrace your differences!
Post # 4
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Worker bee
@shalynnmarie: thanks a lot for the advice 🙂 We’ve gotten through a lot. Our love has kept us together. I’m glad to hear that your FI’s family has accepted you. My husband’s family has accepted me as well and it’s a very great feeling. Good luck to you and your Fiance and may you have a very happy marriage.
Post # 5
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Blushing bee
I went through this. My Fiance is Indian and i’m filipino and his parents did not like me from the beginning because of this cultural difference. When I was around them for family events his father would blatantly ignore me and argue with my Fiance about us dating. It came to the point where Fiance and his father didn’t talk for almost 2 years b/c of me. After we got engaged though, things changed and his family has definitely opened up and welcomed me like a daughter. I’m glad they had a change of heart but honestly i don’t think i can EVER forget the way they disrespected me in the beginning. I’m just lucky I know my Fiance will back me up no matter what.
I think you should just wait it out because I’m sure your father will come around…he just needs time. Good luck!
Post # 6
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Worker bee
@Diana R.: thanks for the advice. i’m sure things will get better as time passes by. my husband doesn’t really like my father either but i told my husband to just not say anything disrespectful even if he gets offended by what my father says sometimes. I’m glad to hear that things worked out for you. I guess it’s just hard in the beginning for most interracial couples but the only thing that family can do is accept it.
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