Post # 1
I was reading this article : http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20100526/ap_on_go_ca_st_pe/us_interracial_marriage
And it made me wonder how many bees were in Interracial relationships. I am Mexican and Fiance is Ecuadorian both of us were born and raised in Chicago. I know technically we are not an Interracial couple but OMG there are just so many differences in both of our cultures. Everything from our vocabulary, to our beliefs and traditions. I always thought I would marry a Mexican guy, and to be honest sometimes I wish Fiance was Mexican. I wish he would get my jokes and my random sayings in spanish.This is almost never an issue since we both speak English almost all the time but still I wish he would undertsand my spanish lol. I really can’t picture myself with someone with a waaay different cultural background than me. I can’t imagine how frustrating it would be for me to be with someone who didn’t get what latin culture is all about.
For those bees in an Interracial relationship: Do you sometimes wish you were both the same race? Does it matter? Does it ever cause issues? Did you ever think you would end up with someone of a different race?
For those bees not in an Interracial relationship: Do you think you could date outside your race? Would it matter?
Post # 3
To me.. skin is just a color. Not an issue.
I dont see a race. I see people… with that perpspective, its never ever been a problem!
Good question tho!
Post # 4
I’m Mexican and and Boyfriend or Best Friend is American. I always thought I would marry a Mexican guy and sometimes I do wish he was Mexican. Especially since I was born and raised in Mexico and it’ll be perfect for me if I could live there AND have him. He doesn’t speak a word of Spanish which is hard, and sometimes I am amazed he likes me because English is not my mother language and I’m so much more intelligent and funny in Spanish LOL. I have no idea how though the cultural differences will get down the road, so far the main one is that he’s not as romantic and expressive as the Mexican guys I’ve dated: in Mexico guys would tell me “I love you” after two weeks of dating (sometimes even before we started dating!) and it took him A YEAR to be capable of saying it, an issue that almost made us break up! I later realized that for most Americans saying “I love you” to a bf or gf is a big deal. Oh well, at least I know he means it now! I could write about this interacial issue forever! Curious to hear other people’s experiences.
Post # 5
The boy and I are in a somewhat interracial relationship. I am caucasian (Eastern European/Jewish descent) and he is Filipino/Eastern European born in the Philippines and raised somewhat Catholic.
I have never once wished we were the same race, but I also have always imagined myself dating someone of a different race! I think it helps that he is pretty “white” having grown up mostly in SoCal (lived in Philippines and Saudi Arabia when he was younger).
I love that I can go to his house and “Nanai” (grandma) is always cooking some yummy food that I didn’t grow up with 😀
To be honest, my ex of four years was Caucasian with a pretty “WASP”-ish family and it was a little boring because we were too similar :/
Post # 6
as a product of an interracial relationship, i’m always in an interracial relationship unless i was dating someone of the same racial mix [i’m korean and black and my mister is black with a touch of white somewhere down the line]. to me, it’s all i’ve known. never really saw race as a reason to preclude someone. i know some people believe that marriage is hard enough without throwing race in, but from what i’ve seen, it’s really more because of the result of external societal pressures than anything else. it’s hard when your loved ones don’t accept the person you’re dating/married too, but that isn’t exclusive to race.
while i did think it would be cool to date someone who was also korean and black, i never wished my mister was the same race as me. underneath it all, we’re both very similar anyway
Post # 7
I’m Canadian (Scottish-German background) and my husband is Korean. We live in Korea.
Race is absolutely not a factor for us. It’s just what you look like. And if we had been both born and raised in the same culture, cultural background would not have been a problem. I have lots of friends in interracial relationships back home who are really from the same Canadian culture, so there are really no major differences. However, me living in his culture (which is radically different from my own) is a constant struggle. I’ve been here for nearly 5 years, so it is getting better, but it’s still something I’m dealing with. I love my husband though, so until he is ready to leave Korea and until we have a good plan as to how to both have jobs in Canada, my cultural struggle is something that I have agreed to live with for the sake of relationship happiness.
Post # 8
I am black and Fiance is Spanish. I don’t see race and I don’t wish we were the same race though. So far it has been tough for my family but they better get over it because he is who I have fallen in love with and will marry.
Post # 9
I’m in a mixed race relationship. I am caucasian, he is Chinese. We’re both nearly 30. I have a very good job, a great education and own my own home.
His parents absolutely despise me. If they see us together in public we get yelled at. They refuse to meet me. And it’s been years and years… My SO hates going to the supermarket, mall, out in public with me etc.
I still can’t decide why they came to this country and raised their kids here. They didn’t bother to teach them their native tongue or any of their customs. They raised them as boring old kiwi kids, and now they have issues their son is with a white girl?
Wierd eh? He does stand up for me. And as long as he always stands up for me we’ll be fine.
I guess some people are lucky, some aren’t?
Post # 10
I am white and he is middle eastern, but we were both born as Americans. I’m probably more ethnic than he is. 🙂
Post # 11
We’re not REALLY interacial–i’m part korean but he’s pretty much all polish/german. But my mom is half korean and my dad is white so i’ve seen some dynamic through my mom’s side of the family. I love being part korean though. Love it. I’m sad the korean part is getting “watered down” with my kids and they’ll only be 1/8th and chances are you won’t be able to tell they have korean in them =(. Skin color doesn’t matter to me and I have dated men of other nationalities, although there are some races and mixes that i find more attractive than others and have naturally been drawn to in the past (particularly asian-white mixes) but I’ve always been open minded. Sometimes i wish Darling Husband was ‘mixed’ somehow…sometimes i’m amazed i ended up with a regular ole white guy, considering i’ve always dated mixed men in the past. like a half chinese half caucasian guy who looked like heath ledger, haha! Yum =].
@babyboo, i totally know what you mean!!! bbq and beer is not near as fun and exciting as platters of ethnic food, homemade by the grandma =]
Post # 12
I’m caucasian and my hubby is Indian. I never wish he were white, because that implies that I’m not 100% happy with who he is. I do, however, sometimes wish our cultural differences weren’t as different, but that does not mean that I ever wish he were white. 🙂 Our cultural differences can be tough due to his family living over in faraway India and such…most of the time, I embrace our differences. 🙂
Post # 13
I’m black and fiance is white. I don’t wish that we were the same race. Our differences enhance our relationship. I do sometimes wish that people were more accepting, but at the end of the day we love each other and that’s all that matters.
Post # 14
my Fiance and I are the same race, but before him, I was mainly involved in interracial relationships because those seemed like the most successful ones for me. I am black and I have dated many other races (Mexican, Puerto Rican, Middle Eastern, Italian, etc), you can say I’m an equal opportunity dater lol. But I never thought I would end up marrying anyone else but a black man for some reason. Even though some of them were great guys, I just probably was too cowardice for the differences.
Post # 15
It seems like this is more of a cultural thing than a race thing. My Fiance and I are interfaith, but both technically the same race and were born and raised in the US. But we have different “cultures” to some extent. I am from a lower middle-class or working class background. Fiance is upper middle-class.
His friends all went to private schools, never had jobs before graudating from college or professional school, have been backpacking through Europe etc. He also relates to his parents much differently than I do and has a different relationship in general with family and friends. We are both very open minded and understanding of each other, but sometimes I can’t help but think he can’t completely understand me.
Post # 16
Hmm, we are inter-everything I think. I’m British and he is American. We are also interracial as I am black (of African descent) and he is half white (Polish) and half Asian (quarter Japanese, quarter Chinese). The racial thing is a non-issue for us as we don’t really even notice that we are different. Of course, the wedding will be an interesting test to see how extended family respond to the reality of us being one forever. Personally I love our little United Colours of Benetton household, it really makes life very interesting.