Post # 16
He has some older relatives who tend to dislike white people, and may use the occasional slur, though I realize that’s not really the same thing.
My original post was a bit blunt as I was trying to get my concern across quickly, but we have had been conversations about what it means for us to be a mixed race couple and what that means for our families and what it will mean for our children. I feel like we’re in a very good place with that, which my original post didn’t really reflect
Post # 17
Im glad you guys have had these conversations,but I would still encourage you to understand you’ll need to examine your own thoughts/ideas around race as you proceed through life. This is true regardless of who you marry, but it becomes more urgent when you marry someone of another race or culture.
For example, the things his family may say are not ok or right… but its also not the same as your white family saying racist things. Its just not on the same level at all. White people have not been treated as second class citizens and systematically oppressed and mistreated for hundreds of years.
Post # 18
A great book that I think you would enjoy is the Color of Life by Cara Meredith.