Post # 1
I’m Chinese and my fiance is South Asian. I’m trying to find ways to incorporate both cultures so that my future in-laws don’t feel like their culture’s been left out. I’d love to know what you ladies have done or are doing so both cultures and/or races are included! 🙂
Post # 3
He’s Haitian and I’m American. Our ceremony was in Haitian Creole because it was in Haiti. We had a translator for the sermon part, but nothing else. The bridal party sat for the ceremony (Haitian), but my dad walked me down the isle (American). We said our vows in English, and my brother read some scripture in English. Songs were in Creole or French. We were able to mesh our two cultures pretty easily because church weddings are very similar in our cultures. The two songs the entire congregation sang I made sure were songs both families were familiar with (in their own languages).
Post # 4
We had a western wedding and then a Chinese Banquet at home reception. We didn’t incorporate too many cultural traditons since I was born and raised in Canada. I would have felt superficial if I had done more than what I felt comfortable with.
Western Style Venue
Chinese Style Venue
Post # 5
i love that you’re trying to incorporate both!
i’m white and my fiance’s family is from pakistan. we are including music from both cultures. the vows will be in english so everyone can understand but given by a muslim imam. i am wearing BOTH dresses. we are making both culture foods available. we aren’t offering pork (against muslim beliefs), but we are offering alcohol (against muslim beliefs but the white side would like to drink).
Post # 6
Well, we are both white but I’m Finnish and he’s American so the cultures are entirely different! I keep getting surprised at how different weddings are in the US compared to here, and I don’t really know how we’re going to mesh the two together. In Finland it’s customary to have program for the reception, with various games and competitions for the guests and often the couple. There’s also a tradition called bride robbing, where the groom’s friends or the bride’s relatives “steal” the wife (because it’s always during the reception) and have the husband complete a task of some sort to get her back. The task is generally related to his job or hobbies, or sometimes her job or hobbies. These days, it’s often the husband who gets stolen, or sometimes the mother-in-laws, but traditionally it was the bride. It’s a really fun tradition for everyone, so I really want to include that, but the American relatives and friends might be in for a bit of a shock with that! So we’ll have to explain it properly. Another thing we often do is a quiz where the guests, divided into teams based on which tables they sit in, compete over who knows the most about the couple, and the winner gets a prize of some sort. The rest of the traditions might be too weird and take too much time to explain, so I think I’ll leave those out…
Also, we traditionally don’t do favors (took me a while to find out what they were because every site I went to assumed the readers are American!), but we give each guest a piece of fine chocolate or other “gourmet” candy wrapped with a slip of paper that has some nice poem or aphorism about love on it, so that’s probably going to be our favors.
The American side will probably come in pretty naturally since the wedding will take place in America, with an American pastor and American catering and everything in English… I’m trying to figure out a way to facor in my language, but only a fraction of the guests would understand it, so I may just have to content myself with English. Maybe there could be a song in Finnish or something, I don’t know.