- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
If any of you have read any my past posts you would know that my Fiance and I ended our engagement in the beginning of April. Since then we’ve gotten back together and I’ve been looking to move out of my parents house to be on my own. I needed that extra push to move out but now I’m doing it because I need to get out of the comfort of my parents house and be on my own. I mean… I’m only 27!
Anyway, I’ve been busy with apartment hunting, keeping busy, etc… while at the same time working things out with the ex Fiance. We plan on eventually moving in together but I need to live on my own for a bit. Anyway, because the nature of our break up (it being unexpected) my friends had been very supportive, coming over hours after he left… etc.. Since then, they’ve moved on with thier lives, jobs, etc. Very understandable.
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have never been one to brag about our relationship because it’s our relationship and no one else’s business. So one of my friends, about a week ago (after not hearing from her for almost a month) texts me to see how I’m doing and starts asking about the Boyfriend or Best Friend and if we’re back together. I told her yes and what not and she started telling me that we haven’t been broken up for long and I need to grow and be independent. She began to tell me I’m doing it all wrong and kept poking me for answers.
Let me be clear, every relationship is different and people take break ups very differently. About a week after we had broken up, I told him that we needed to take time apart and cease communication to figure things out. We tried that and it didn’t work because he and I both realized that we wanted to be together. Although we’re not ready to get married.
So I told my friend that if she chooses to not to support me in my decision then that’s OK, I’ll be fine with that. To which she responded with “That’s fine”. End of discussion.
Jump to this weekend. I wake up on Sunday to a text message from one of my closes friends who says she got an email concerning me. I called her and she told me that the friend I had a falling out with had emailed all of my friends pleading with them to let me know what I’m doing is wrong and to give their honest opinions. Needless to say when I got this information I was livid. I appreciated my friend giving me the head ups because even though she felt like she betrayed the girl who emailed, her loyalty stood with me because we’re much closer and she was never close with this other girl.
So I ask all you bee’s… What would you do if you found out someone who you thought it be a friend was trying to convince your other friends you’re doing the wrong thing? How would you feel if you knew others were talking about you behind your back?
Thank you all!