(Closed) interviewing for a new job while pregnant

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

MrsMcQN:  In reality, you are perfectly within your rights to accept the job and then tell them you’re pregnant.  Employers are not allowed to discriminate against you because of a pregnancy.

However, I feel your pain because I am a low-conflict kind of person and I would personally feel really bad about it too.  I guess I would probably tell them after they offered me the job, and just ask if they think it’ll be a problem?  For me, I like to cause the smallest amount of problems for others, often to my own detriment, but I would still feel better about indicating that I’d understand that they might not appreciate this.  Hopefully they won’t care though.  Blah.

So really, I have no words of wisdom, but just wanted to say that I feel for you, and good luck. 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

MrsMcQN:  At 20 weeks, are you showing? Is there any way they already know that you are pregnant? 

I would honestly just tell them if they offer you the job. Are you planning to return to work after maternity leave? You also need to keep in mind that you wont qualify for FMLA beacuse you will not have worked there for a year. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it also really depends on where you are….if you’re in Canada and will be taking a year off, that is really different than say, 6-10 weeks.

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

MrsMcQN:  what kind of job is it? If it is a job that has a regular work flow (ie not an accountant) and you can work until your due date doing not a nurse or traveling), wait until you have an offer then negotiate maternity leave. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I would tell them. I think it’s highly unfair to accept a job that you would need to leave for mat leave in a few months. You also don’t know if there will be any complications in the later stages either.  

But I’m canadian and we go off for a year. I think even 6 weeks is pushing it for a job you would have been at for 4 months though. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d tell them. Even to be gone for 6 months means they will likely have to find a replacement for you, and by the time you start and get trained they will only have a relatively short window to find your replacement. Yeah, legally they can’t not give you the job….but I dunno, I think it could breed resentment.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

MrsMcQN:  I strongly suggest you wait until after you have received an offer. If you must tell them in advance, tell them after they give you the offer and before you accept. I think it will hurt you to tell them before an offer is put on the table. You have to remember, this is business not friendship, and when it comes to business you have to play the game and look out for yourself. I think they will understand.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

MrsMcQN:  I would wait until the job is offered to you for you to tell them. What if they dont offer it, and later on, theres another opportunity for you to take? You don’t want them to say, “well, she lied to us, so there’s no way we’re letting her interview for this one”. 

If they do offer you the position, I would have the discussion before you accept the job. I’d be totally upfront about your concerns. Do you know if the position would allow you with a “work from home” opportunity once the baby is born/you have recovered?

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I am pretty sure that if you tell them beforehand they will most lkikely not hire since whats the point of training a person for a position if they will end up having to rehire a temp and re-train.  From their standpoint it is an inconveniance they can avoid.  If you dont tell them however it may be very ackward for you down the road so you just have to ask yourself if your prepared to have to deal with that.  Me personally, Im a puss, so I would be overly stresses and haing panic attacks about it, but you may be a much braver woman than I! 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

I would wait until they offer you the position to have the conversation with them. Then you can tell them that you don’t plan on taking the full year off and how excited you are about the opportunity. I interviewed for a position just after giving birth and they called a few weeks later and offered it to me. I told them that I was currently on maternity leave and they were very understanding, even offered to let me start later than what I said I would. So you never know how a company will react, but I would definetly wait until they offer the position.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Wait until they make you an offer.  I personally quit taking interviews now that I’m pregnant, but I probably still would for the perfect job at the perfect (high!) salary.  If you want to be upfront, discuss it with HR when they make you an offer.  Let them know “I’d love to take it.  I want to make sure that my pregnancy won’t cause any issues, though.  I’m looking foward to a long a lustrious career with you, but don’t want to start out in a bad light.”

I don’t know Canadian law, but here in the US, they can’t take it back or not offer it to you because you’re pregnant.  Anyone who hires people has to consider women, and has to know there’s a chance she may need time off at some point to have a child.  Even men could have a partner give birth a month after they start and take paternal leave.  

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