Post # 1
I cant believe im sharing this lol but here goes my Too Much Information…..
My SO has had one sex partner before me but they weren’t very experimental and you can sometimes tell. Now mind you he’s usually pretty spectacular and we both come most of the time AT the same time, so you ask what the problem is? Well, tonight during sex he literally came within the first 3 minutes he was upset with himself and I just told him it was ok. Although my body and my mind told me it wasn’t 😛 Later when we were still talking about it I asked him why he couldn’t just finish me off some other way…honest to god ladies he didn’t know what I meant! He didn’t know how, he didn’t know anything about it lol. Soooooo to get to my question, is there a book or anything out there that maybe will teach him some stuff or show him how to do things…I want to be more experimental in the bedroom but he’s just so lost on what to do. I think he just needs a little guidance.
Any help or guidance would be appreciated!
Thanks bees :}
Post # 3
The best source of guidance is YOU. If he isn’t sure how else to get you off, lead him. Even make a roleplay of it if you want, with you being the dominant partner and him being submissive. Show him how you like to be touched. Masturbate in front of him and let him see what you do, then let him try. There’s lots to do, but I think it’s all best coming from you rather than a book.
Post # 4
Thats true, I never thought of it like that. I guess in my mind he was always suppose to be the dominator
Post # 5
There needs to be a book called how to train a virgin! lol I’ve been where you are and I understand the frustration of trying to help him without hurting him. the best one I have found (because it comes off with humor so it won’t hurt him) Is “The Sex MANual” by Dean. However “how to love me” by Ali Davis is a great book too. It is a question book that covers it all. you fill it out and then he can use it as a manual to you. Some questions are fill in the blank and some multiple choice. Fiance loved this one.
Post # 6
I agree it needs to come from you. Or get him to watch porn. So it’s not like it is in the movies, but will give him some ideas.
Post # 7
yes it does need to come from you so a book can help but you need to be open with him too. Thats also why I liked the “How to Love me book” It opened a up an avenue that he felt comfortable asking me questions about what I had written. Thus he was more willing to listen without his ego being bruised
Post # 8
The advice you received from the ladies it the best way. Porn will give him some ideas and not make him feel that he is being taught like a book would. Whatever you are interested in experiment with get the CD and let nature takes its course.
Post # 9
The Guide to Getting It On, by Paul Joannides, is a lovely large book about everything sexual. It has info about lots of different activities for both women and men, straight and gay (tthere are separate chapters about different sorts of activities and orientations, so if there are things one isn’t interested in, it’s pretty easy to just skip chapters). There is, as I recall, a chapter on how to pleasure a woman, with good illustrations, and written with a friendly, helpful tone.
I highly recommend this book!
Post # 10
We took a quiz once about different things to try, and then it showed us the results of the things we were both interested in (that way noone has to be embarassed). Of course my husband cheated and said he was interested in everything 😉
We also got a book of 365 positions for our wedding. They don’t all work, but it could be good to get some ideas. I also like this site for new ideas (and the entertainment value. Some of these are named the sillies things!)