(Closed) Intimacy Issue with FI

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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2825 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

my boyfriend can be pretty quick sometimes… best advice, less forplay for him and more for you… Then when he thinks he getting close, stop for a little bit and let him help you more… then try again… have him stop a few times until your both ready.

Post # 4
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Do you use condoms? If not, maybe give them a try, they can decrease male sensitivity and lead to an ability to have intercourse longer. Also, you could try taking a “time out” when he gets near orgasm, where you provide no stimulation for him and he manually/orally stimulates you until he is less aroused, then start up with intercourse again.

Post # 5
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5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’ve had this experience with a few previous boyfriends.  My few pieces of advice:

1. have him wear a condom.  not the thin ones.  this will make him less sensetive.

2. have more sex or encourage him to take care of himself on a regular basis.  That way the urgency won’t be there.  Guys have a limited supply of semen and the more that’s been…expended already the less the need for his body to expend more.

3. Try a ring for him.  They go on the shaft of his penis and cut off some of the blood supply which makes him last longer.  (some of them vibrate and feel great for the girl).

Post # 7
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

I think the idea that your problem is rare is probably just from the fact that people don’t talk about it.  It’s actually a pretty common issue, and not just for men.  Try out some of the ideas mentioned above (I second the ring) and see if that helps!

Post # 8
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5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

@SecretNameBee:  you have no idea how many men have this issue.  LOTS!  please dont’ feel like there is something wrong with either of you.  there isn’t.  everyone’s bodies are different.  there is no right or wrong.  there is no fault or blame to be places.  This is just another one of those quirks we all have and find ways to deal with.  Think about all the body issues women have.  Some women can’t orgasm, some women have very sensetive nipples, etc.  men are equally different and varied. Work with your Fiance to figure out what works for the two of you.  And who knows, you might have some fun in the process 🙂

Post # 9
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

There is nothing wrong with either of you!!!!

He gets excited with you… thats a GREAT thing not a bad thing!

I had this issue with a previous Boyfriend or Best Friend and the best thing for us was him taking care of himself every morning – him getting used to that level of pleasure helps him build a tolerance for it. Stamina will come with time don’t worry!

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